feeling resentment towards MM

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Registered: 08-13-2002
feeling resentment towards MM
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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 6:44pm
So today me and MM are both back to work, planning on meeting on Wednesday, sending emails, and calling each other, when i thought everything was backt to normal, he tells me that he will be off again next week. Next week is my birthday, and i think that he didn't even think about that, he told me that he's taking next week because, first day of school and off and also his sons birthday... What about me, i will be very upset, because he will be spending my birthday with his W all day. That just killed the all mood for the meeting on Wednesday. I showed just how upset i was and actually hung up on him as i was driving home today. He usually doesn't call me when he's off, and i dread thinking that he won't call me on my birthday either...I'm just so resentfull of him right now. I will talk to him tomorrow, and it will be serious. Thanks for hearing me, i'm so grateful for having this board right now, where people like you understand the hurt i'm feeling...Should i get really upset about this or should i just enjoy this week and the time that i will spend with him????
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Mon, 08-25-2003 - 7:03pm
Hi luizinha,

I know that you are feeling very upset at the moment... but you need to take a step back and understand that MM has a whole other life... that unfortunately has to take precedence over what he has with you.

I know that it's your birthday... but you have to understand that the upcoming events in MM's life are very big milestones for him.

If I were you... I would make the most of the time you are going to get with him this week... he's made himself available... take it! but at the same time... let him know how you feel... tell him that it is your birthday... and don't hate him if he hasn't realised, he has a lot of other things on his mind too. My MM doesn't remember mine... he knows roughly as it's the week before his... but then DH can never remember mine or the kids either... doesn't mean he doesn't love us... I really think, it's just a man thing. But just tell him how you feel... it's the only way he'll really know.

I know it's hard... but hang in there and stay strong.

luv and hugs

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