Feeling like a teenager again... :-)

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Registered: 02-01-2013
Feeling like a teenager again... :-)
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 9:12pm

So, I have been seeing too much unhappy stuff about APs and such. I am finally getting a hotel date with AP. Im going to get the next day to spend with him as well, which is totally awesome :) You would think both of us were teenagers the way we are so nervous about this. Im super self conscious so all I can think about is awkward. I cant wait but Im also worried about weird stuff. Anyone else had these crazy fears??

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Registered: 02-19-2013
Tue, 02-19-2013 - 12:44pm

Yes.  I have a hotel set up for an overnight for mommy time. I have a date set up with on guy but it's just to hang out. I might cancel with him because I'm not sure we want the same thing. Good luck to you,  what r u most worried about?

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Tue, 02-19-2013 - 5:24pm

The few overnights I had, it was not easy to sleep, both for obvious reasons, but also because it's not the easiest thing to sleep next to someone "new".. make sure you both get really tired then :)

it's OK to be worried, just means you care about what you have with him and about yourself. nothing wrong there.

A little, or some more, alcohol goes a long way to help with lessening the awkwardness.. as well as good, long conversations..

Then again, some people take a moment to say hi and end up checking out how firm the mattress is.  It really all depends on the chemistry you two have.

So, what kind of fears are you talking about here? The weirder the better.. if you search, you'll surely find some good ones here!

Good luck and do tell us how it turns out.. and don't forget to gloat :))

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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 8:29pm
Im still not sure about the sleepover part....I can make it work either way. We have been seeing eachother for over two months so we have built up to this and there is definitely chemistry :-) I am mostly worried about not sleeping with anyone other than H for many years and not being "hot momma" enough lol. I am confident size wont be an issue, but Ill be wishing tonight and tomorrow the same thing the first time we kissed....please please please be good at this!!! :-)
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Tue, 02-19-2013 - 9:29pm
I say hang out with him and if things dont go the way you like, kick him out of your room lol :-) Im just feeling a little self conscious I suppose, maybe too mommy, I dont know. We have a good connection but I just have first time jitters I suppose. How about you?
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Registered: 09-21-2007
Wed, 02-20-2013 - 11:11am

I love the teenager feeling and we get that too! Laughing

Lucky you!!  Try to forget the weird stuff feelings and have a great time!

 

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Wed, 02-20-2013 - 3:31pm

Lost is right.. don't worry too much.. at least not once you two are behind closed doors!

I mean look at it from his viewpoint too.. performance anxiety is much more of a problem for us guys than you girls. So, imagine how much stress he's feeling :)

In reality, if you both have chemistry, you'll do fine.. I doubt motherhood will get in the way of a good time to be had by two. There is nothing to be "good" or "bad" at here.. let your passion and instincts take over.. enjoy, smile, and laugh..

And if he's arranging this with you, you already have him! You are already more than "hot" enough for him, mama or not..

If you truly want to worry about something, worry about how much you'll miss him once you part ways..

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Thu, 02-21-2013 - 1:56am

ooooohhhh siiiiiigh...cant sleep and cant wait for the morning :)

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Thu, 02-21-2013 - 7:23pm

So glad to report that nothing there was nothing to be disappointed by but his nerves were worse than mine. Of course there was not enough time(is there ever??) and as soon as we parted I had the missing you blues. but I need to work on making a better exit, I feel bad for making him late. That will be something to work on. The L bomb was dropped and then we discussed our what if we are busted or otherwise thoughts. Kind of dampened my elation but he made sure I was smiling again quickly....