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feeling very insecure
| Fri, 09-05-2003 - 9:04am |
Hey,
Need some help here!!!! I haven't spoken to my MM for 10 Days. The longest has only been 5 days. It gets completed because of the tome difference and his travel schedule. When I spoke to him last, he called me and was so sweet. He always tells me how much he misses me and loves me. I shrink tells me that I need to stay busier, because his life is so crazy that he doesn't have as much as I do to dwell on every little thing. He says we will be together, he has never lied to me and always does what he says he will but it's just so hard. I would talk to him every day if I could. I wish there were ways that we could at least touch base even if we can't talk. He is still waiting for his computer to be delivered. I know it will be easier then. Any thoughts or ideas on this long distance thing? I know that I need to take a deep breath and relax but it makes me crazy.
Help!!!!
Dee
Need some help here!!!! I haven't spoken to my MM for 10 Days. The longest has only been 5 days. It gets completed because of the tome difference and his travel schedule. When I spoke to him last, he called me and was so sweet. He always tells me how much he misses me and loves me. I shrink tells me that I need to stay busier, because his life is so crazy that he doesn't have as much as I do to dwell on every little thing. He says we will be together, he has never lied to me and always does what he says he will but it's just so hard. I would talk to him every day if I could. I wish there were ways that we could at least touch base even if we can't talk. He is still waiting for his computer to be delivered. I know it will be easier then. Any thoughts or ideas on this long distance thing? I know that I need to take a deep breath and relax but it makes me crazy.
Help!!!!
Dee

I know how you feel. It is very hard sometimes. I only usually get to email my MM and once in a while we manage to spaek on the phone. But there have been times when a day or two goes by and I wonder what he's doing or WHY he can't find two minutes to email me. BUT, then I get a sweet email or phone call and all is well with the world again.
I am learning (although it sounds as if your EMA might be different for you if you two are exchanging the L word) to accept the fact that it is what it is. I think that is easier said than done sometimes. There will always be times when you two will be unable to contact each other, and it's sometimes hard to adjust to being in a relationship with so many boundaries. I am also learning that there are serious upswings and downswings with EMAs, and if I am going throught it, he probably is too (I mean emotionally - guilt, confusion, elation, excitement - you name it). Maybe I am getting a bit off track here?!!
Just keep busy!
Thanks for the response. I tried to call him and finally got through. I have been so worried and to find out he had tried to call me Monday night and couldn't get through with his calling card. I told him that we have to set up someway to get through to each other when he travels so I know to call him and not to wait for him to call me since he can't always get through depending on the country he is in. He said that he would have to give me his travel schedule. So all that insecurity for nothing!!!!!!
Why is it that we worry so much? Why can't we (I say we, because it seems, reading so many of these posts that we all seem to get insecure) just believe what our MM says if they have been truthful. I wish I could just believe what my heart says and stop thinking so much. I make myself crazy with doubts when I shouldn't. Is it just the nature of the beast? Is it because we are in a unfaithful situation that we just automatically believe that if we can lie to our Hs and they can lie to their Ws, that must then mean that they will lie to us?
Any thoughts on this subject?
Much more relieved,
Dee