Felt ... unsure with him

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-25-2004
Felt ... unsure with him
2
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 6:29pm
Maybe it's because I was S for almost three years after my divorce, so I had forgotten about relationships and how they work. Maybe it's just that A's are different. But AP and I were in bed this morning and I literally felt like I was in bed with him for the first time, like I wasn't sure what the boundaries were, even if it was OK to initiate sex, kissing, foreplay, anything. It was, really, kind of awkward. I have been with this man for more than a year and we are not shy with each other, to say the least. But we had a pretty big fight several days ago and are in the midst of dealing with some weighty "what is our future" issues. I suspect that's why I felt how I did. It was weird. Maybe we are both a bit more bruised than I realized, because he seemed like he was feeling the same way. I feel a bit like an idiot, but is this normal after a fight?
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2008
Sun, 08-24-2008 - 6:21pm
Yes it is...me and AP had a massive row a couple of weeks back which had hrt both of us extremely bad....

Some of it still prys on my mind but its got to the point that it is affecting our health so it had to stop....

It is best to let them cool after an arg!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2007
Sun, 08-24-2008 - 6:53pm
I do think its normal ..in such an unusual circumstance..kwim? yesterday when AP & I got together..i felt nervous..I just wanted to make love, nothing fancy..of course his mission is to please me..so thtas how it went..but I almost felt like a stranger..like a '1st" time..we have been away form oneanother ..for 2 weeks because of my vacation.