Finally heard

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Registered: 09-07-2008
Finally heard
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Tue, 12-09-2008 - 5:44pm
Well low and behold I got a text today from AP. Evidently he is been in NJ since Saturday due to work issues and a major work "meltdown"...hasn't slept or ate in 3 days according him. I have to say I feel better knowing he is ok. I mean when you go for days without hearing anything when you normally talk everyday makes you wonder. At the same time COMMUNICATION IS KEY...I sent him that text back. I told him that I felt better knowing he was ok. Communication is key and what am I suppose to think when I didn't hear from him in days. I mean come on it doesn't take two seconds to send a text that say busy with work. Am I overreacting here? If I am please set me straight so I know better the next time this happens.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: algirl2008
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 7:18pm

I am glad you heard from him, but I agree being upset about him not contacting you. You are right - all it takes is 10 seconds to send a quick text....meanwhile we sit there and wait....and wait....then worry. I think it's a male thing....I was supposed to hook up with the guy I am sleeping with friday nite, and he was "i'll call you in 20 min. to let you know what time i'll be there". Its tuesday night, and i am still waiting for that call.


I went on a shopping trip out of country, and still had the time to call/text him once in awhile. because as females we are considerate. and some men, well, just don't think. then when you tell them you were worried about them, or something, they brush it off like it was no big deal. so all that worrying for 3 days was just brushed off?? I do not think you are overreacting at all

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Registered: 02-09-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 7:56pm

I know you want to hear from him, but guys do communication different to women. If he's busy at work, then he is focused on work, and effectively (in his mind) can't find time to send you a text. My AP has never contacted me every day. I told him early on what NC does to me and he promised to make an effort which means every few days. He never goes more than three days. I've told him if he does I will assume he's been hit by a bus. He has told me that NC doesn't mean out of mind and that I have to trust that he thinks of me all the time. NC for him also often means not safe. I got myself into a better state of mind by thinking NC means he is staying safe so I can keep seeing him.

You are right. Communication is the key. You need to let him know what NC does to you and if you haven't already, then you need to tell him you still need a line from him letting you know he is busy.

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Registered: 12-15-2003
In reply to: algirl2008
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 8:41pm
i agree with you all.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: algirl2008
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 8:51pm

MEN UGHH!


i was actually reading

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