I am sorry ali but when you " finally heard from AP" ,I really feel sorry for you ! How can you be so blinded that one text makes you forget how he treated you! You call him a friend? Your choice.
What you should be remembering is that your AP ,soon to be turned friend, is capable of shutting you out and making a re-entry at his own wish,irrespective of your feelings.He is also capable of hurting you to the core and fogging your beliefs.He is incapable of being a friend,IMHO.
You dont need to see him for closure.Go MIA.Life is full of choices,depends on what you choose.
Just curious,did your AP ever tell you that he was leaving or you assumed?
I never or he never said he was unable to text me. I said that he thought it was easier to stay away from me. I do accept that he could have sent me a message and told me what was going on. Nothing can excuse his behaviour.
I'm glad to hear more about your scenario (that you have known him for so long, that you are 41, that you have managed to meet up with an ex and just keep it friendly).
Thanks for that I have been shattered with the whole thing but think that as this has been a very stressful year for me in other areas of my life what has happened between me and him has just made everything seem so much worse.
I am in a better place emotionally, less stress in every area of my life. Going on holiday in less than 3 weeks, made arrangements for nights out with friends and generally doing stuff for myself.
I am looking forward to seeing him tonight in the hope that I get the closure that I need. I have no intention of falling back into the dark place I was in a few weeks ago. I will see how it goes and if I feel ok with the friendship, which I think I will be, I will still keep in touch with him. I think that my friendship is what he needs more than anything right now.
I have learnt a lot about myself the last few weeks and learnt a lot from these boards, making me a stronger person. Everything happens for a reason I believe so I don't regret our time together. I think that there are
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I'm sorry.
I am sorry ali but when you " finally heard from AP" ,I really feel sorry for you ! How can you be so blinded that one text makes you forget how he treated you! You call him a friend? Your choice.
What you should be remembering is that your AP ,soon to be turned friend, is capable of shutting you out and making a re-entry at his own wish,irrespective of your feelings.He is also capable of hurting you to the core and fogging your beliefs.He is incapable of being a friend,IMHO.
You dont need to see him for closure.Go MIA.Life is full of choices,depends on what you choose.
Just curious,did your AP ever tell you that he was leaving or you assumed?
Hi flying,
I never or he never said he was unable to text me. I said that he thought it was easier to stay away from me. I do accept that he could have sent me a message and told me what was going on. Nothing can excuse his behaviour.
Hi chick,
I am not blinded by one text, I know what he has done to me and
Hi Jane,
Thanks for that I have been shattered with the whole thing but think that as this has been a very stressful year for me in other areas of my life what has happened between me and him has just made everything seem so much worse.
I am in a better place emotionally, less stress in every area of my life. Going on holiday in less than 3 weeks, made arrangements for nights out with friends and generally doing stuff for myself.
I am looking forward to seeing him tonight in the hope that I get the closure that I need. I have no intention of falling back into the dark place I was in a few weeks ago. I will see how it goes and if I feel ok with the friendship, which I think I will be, I will still keep in touch with him. I think that my friendship is what he needs more than anything right now.
I have learnt a lot about myself the last few weeks and learnt a lot from these boards, making me a stronger person. Everything happens for a reason I believe so I don't regret our time together. I think that there are
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