Finally need to ask you all....

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Finally need to ask you all....
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Sun, 10-18-2009 - 8:22pm

Hi, lurker here for awhile.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Mon, 11-16-2009 - 6:01pm

Liloita:

You may find that the more you limit contact, the crazier it may make HIM. What's he going to do without his emotional crutch? He's dumping all his displeasure & sadness upon you. That's NO FUN anymore.

You may also find that the more you distance yourself from him the less you're going to feel the drama of HIS life. HIS problems. Maybe it's time for his WIFE to step up and do her job. Better or worse, remember? Perhaps this EMA is the wake up call he and she will need to jump start their marraige IF they have something to salvage.

That's something he and she needs to figure out.

In my current circumstance, the DH knows I am quasi involved with a former AP. I understand that being "open" with a spouse is NOT for everybody. For myself, I don't like to live a lie for it eats me up.

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 7:55am

Hi NY--cant imagine AP telling wife we are quasi involved. LOL. You could be right, he is trying to figure out his marriage, but hey, I did not come to this A with him to fix his love life. I entered gently and cautiously, but enjoyed and needed the playtime, and we became friends.

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