First holiday season breakdown

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Registered: 10-17-2003
First holiday season breakdown
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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 4:53pm
Well, this weekend I had my first holiday breakdown...MM went to a holiday party this weekend with the family...I cried uncontrollably...I just sat here and sobbed for a good hour...thinking of what he was doing...that he was there with her and it just wasn't fair. He called me a few times throughout the evening and that made me happy but how am I ever going to make it through the new year...I'm sure this is only the first party...I knew the holidays were going to be rough but last night just came on so suddenly...the sadness and hurt feelings just took me by surprise. Normally the things he does with the family dont bother me...I am usually ok with it...could it just be the holiday blues??? Does it get an easier??? For those of you single ladies out there...what do you do to get through the holidays without totally losing your mind??? Any and all advice is welcomed!
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Registered: 12-01-2003
Mon, 12-15-2003 - 1:48am
It's the first holiday season for me too. And being single doesn't seem to help. Hang in there honey.It will be over soon.As for how i plan on coping with it well I'm going to concentrate on my family and friends. And hope they keep me busy.
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Registered: 10-10-2003
Mon, 12-15-2003 - 3:10am
I had to deal with this kind of sadness as well. I can totally feel where you coming from. I think it comes from a lack of normalcy in the relaitonship.
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Registered: 09-22-2003
Mon, 12-15-2003 - 1:42pm
I know that it's hard. MM and I have been together for five years, and it never seems to get easier. Last Sunday morning I went home upset because MM and his W were going into the city with their kids. They do this every year, but it seems that during this time of year I get even more emotional than usual. My relationship with MM is wonderful. I love him, and I know he loves me. It's just that having children makes it very hard. I think he's the type of guy waiting for, so here I am. In the five years we've been together, all the good moments pass the moments when I think hope is lost. It's during this time of year that I get sad thinking about how I'm not with him. I hope that this sad feeling plays itself out for you. Try to stay positive and have a great holiday season.