First minor fight...
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First minor fight...
| Tue, 03-02-2004 - 9:33am |
My OW and I had our first fight last night. It wasn't anything major, more a misunderstanding than anything else. I was trying to explain my fears to her and I ended up accidentally dismissing her fears in the process. I didn't get that at the time though. What I was expecting was for her to tell me everything would be okay and instead she got angry and was quiet. Once I understood the way I made her feel I did apologize, but it turns out she doesn't get over things very quickly. This was my first exposure to her when she is angry and it scared me a bit. I'm the kind of person who wants to talk things out and I forgive and move on easily with someone I love. She appears to be very different and need time to get past things. I'm sure everything will be fine today, but I absolutely hated going to bed last night knowing I upset her. Being this far apart from her, I feel like I have to keep things positive all the time. I can't be there to work through difficult times. How do I deal with negative situations like this? And should I worry that we resolve disagreements differently?

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Good luck to you!
jen
Sorry, this is an extremely sore spot for me.
Your situation interested me since I volunteer at woman's and kids shelter and see many cases where the husband has conveniently fallen in love with another woman while making another one pregnant. I know your situation is different socioeconomic wise, etc etc but I just thought I should perhaps offer you a few alternative thoughts. You seem to have a temper and seem to jump to conclusions about you being judged and pigeonholed but most of what I have said and whenever I have said is a "maybe" and is mentioned in a general sense.
PG
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