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| Mon, 04-26-2004 - 2:09pm |
I posted here for the first time last week, and with all the stuff that's been going around the past few days, I'm a little nervous to post again. But I have to ask....
my mm and had sex for the first time yesterday, and I wanted to know how you all felt after that happened... did you feel different? Did you look at each other different? Do you think differently about each other? I'm totally falling for him.. and even more now that we've shared more with each other.
Thanks!!!
my mm and had sex for the first time yesterday, and I wanted to know how you all felt after that happened... did you feel different? Did you look at each other different? Do you think differently about each other? I'm totally falling for him.. and even more now that we've shared more with each other.
Thanks!!!

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I know exactly what you mean! I think you and I are in the same boat. My OMM made it clear from the beginning that what he was looking for was a friend. He and his W have a good sex life, as do my H and I. So preserving the friendship was very important and you can never tell the effect that adding sex to the mix will have. He had a relationship with a woman in the past that was a disaster because the two of them were great friends, but then they became lovers and he hated having sex with her.( I don't really know why) But he didn't want to tell her for fear of hurting her feelings...anyway, it was an unhappy experience for him. So he was very worried about taking that step with me, because it's not really possible to turn back once you turn that corner. We have the same pact as you and your OM — when the affair is over, we will remain friends. I have no idea whether that's possible, but I do know I will never do anything to hurt this man. And I think he sees me the same way. Time will tell...at the moment, I hope the physical part of what I consider a lifelong friendship will last as long as possible!! I've never met a man I felt more attracted to. good luck to you and keep posting! You sound like the opposite of your membername...
my member name, however... His W is the friend I am referring to... so I AM the worst FRIEND!!! If that's what you'd call me. I hate the way she treats him. Like he's one of her kids.
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