first time

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Registered: 01-05-2004
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 8:27am
I've only posted here a few times but I'm so nervous excited right now that I just had to "tell" someone.

In just a couple of hours MM will be arriving for a few hours of fun. This will be our first time having IC. The butterflies in my stomach are going crazy. I'm so excited about this yet I'm really really nervous. It's been years since I've been with anyone other than H so I worry about how good I'll be. I've got a little extra padding here and there and I know his W is very slim so I worry about what he'll think when he sees me totally nekkid. And to top it off I have very sensitive skin and used a new shaving gel when trim down there and now have a bit of razor burn which is unattractive.

We've been friends for a long time and socialize together regularily so I just worry that if things don't go well it will screw that up.

So wish me luck!

I'm off to shower and get ready for MM.

jw


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Registered: 02-16-2004
In reply to: jwluv
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 9:49am
I think everything will turn out alright. I had big-time butterflies the first time I was with MM and as the afternoon progressed, I became very relaxed and comfortable. He took his time and was very gentle and didn't pressure me really for anything. After years of really being neglected in that "department," MM really made me feel like an attractive, exciting (and young) girl again.

Just turn down the lights, light a few candles, put on some music....he won't care about anything else but you. Enjoy your afternoon....I'm so jealous!!

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: jwluv
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 9:52am
luv, it is really scary for the first time, atleast it was for me. I was half trembling in anticipation and half scared out of my wits.:-) He was scared too, both of us never did think we will get to the point we were since we were mostly friends too. Just relax and try not worry too much. About the padding here and there (LOL), don't worry about it, it doesn't matter, really...
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: jwluv
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 9:53am
Have a terrific time today luv!! I can hardly remember that first time for us, it was so long ago!! And now we know each other so well like the back of our hand.

But I still get those butterflies every time to this day, its so exciting when I know I'm going to see him!!. Take care,

Dusty
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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: jwluv
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:00am
Obviously he does not care about the extra padding if he is on his way over to see you. Take it from me us men do not care much about the extra padding. Butterflies are normal I still get them every time I hear MW voice ( Which I did this morning, feeling good) Just try to relax and enjoy and you will see that the passion in an A is so much more intense.

Enjoy and Good Luck

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Registered: 02-03-2004
In reply to: jwluv
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:17am
Giant -- that is the sweetest. Nice to get a guy's perspective since we are so critical of ourselves...

And luv, enjoy your first. Every time after is wonderful, but there is nothing nothing nothing like the first exploration. It is so sweet, and I am SOOOOOOO jealous. Let us know how it goes.. well, at least as much as you can share!

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Registered: 10-13-2003
In reply to: jwluv
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 11:18am

Jw, enjoy your first time!

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Registered: 01-05-2004
In reply to: jwluv
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 11:53am
Thanks everyone for your support.

MM was supposed to call me this morning to let me know when to expect him but I still haven't heard anything. He works some crazy hours and e-mailed me last night about 3:30 saying he was just getting home and to bed. He said he would call or e-mail me when he woke up. Well it's nearly noon and still nothing. No call. No e-mail. We only have until about 4:00 to be alone and he lives about 35 minutes away so I'm beginning to wonder if he changed his mind. We've both gone back and forth about this trying to end it at times but neither of us has ever been able to stick with it. The attraction is just too great.

I thought the butterflies were bad before but now it's like I've got a whole colony if them in there.

thanks for listening!

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Registered: 01-05-2004
In reply to: jwluv
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 1:27pm
Well he showed up right after I sent my last message and he's gone already. Things definitely did not goes as I had hoped. I'm confused and hurt and I'm feeling a little used right now.

Up til today everything that we've done has just happened when an oppurtunity arose. This was the first planned meeting and we were both a little nervous. For one thing, MM came to my house. It feels strange doing this in the house I share with H and I suppose it was in the back of both of our minds...what if H comes home for some reason? Very unlikely but... then on top of that neither of us really knew how to start. We knew what we were planning to do but it seemed so odd to have planned it. So he stripped down right away which threw me off. I guess I expected things to go slower. I didn't take my clothes off right away. In fact I never did get them all off. We started making out and caressing and I had promised him a little special attention just for him since he never gets it at home. So I proceeded to "pleasure" him. And seeing as he never gets that he was quickly satisified. At which time we snuggle a bit kiss some more and he informs me that he is pretty much done for a couple hours. It will take that long before he's "up to the task" again. I say that's ok there are still other things we can do and you never know perhaps it won't take as long as he thinks. Well he says he's nervous, worried about getting caught in fact he had nearly turned around twice on his way here and he should probably get going. I try to disuade him but he says he really should go. He apologizes for not giving more attention to my needs and says that next time will be better. He won't be so nervous and we'll take it slower so he isn't done so quickly. And that was it. He was here less than an hour. I'm feeling more sexually frustrated than ever and I feel really used. I know he feels bad. As he was leaving he said he'd be expecting a scathing e-mail from me and he didn't blame me, he deserved it. I'm just so disappointed right now.

luv

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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: jwluv
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 2:38pm
I am sorry it did not go the way you expected. He may of felt bad that he finished so quickly. He may of also been very nervous. Try not to dwell to much on this bad experience and hope that the next is better.

Remember practice makes perfect.

PS. You may want to try a different location a few times before you try at your house. I know the first time MW and I did it at my house we were both a bit worried and it is always in the back of your head.

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Registered: 02-03-2004
In reply to: jwluv
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 3:13pm
And next time... when he starts to strip down... slow HIM down a bit. Giant is right -- too much pressure in your house, particularly the first time. Don't worry ... you have lots of time and it will get better. Just hang in there and try not to dwell on it too much. Like anything else it just takes time and persistence.

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