The FIRST time with your AP

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Registered: 04-23-2009
The FIRST time with your AP
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Mon, 06-08-2009 - 9:44am

What was the first time like with your AP; were you both nervous and in a hurry, was it the best out of all of the times you’ve been together, how/where did it take place? Did it change your relationship any?


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Registered: 06-13-2006
Wed, 06-10-2009 - 10:02am








This is the email I sent this morning...




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Registered: 04-23-2009
Wed, 06-10-2009 - 10:39am

There is no way he’s not thinking about you…..no way, and that email you sent him was very nice, he will really appreciate that, it was very well put. So when he went on vacation, was it over between you two or are you just assuming he will end it? How often has he ended it due to guilt or whatever?


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Registered: 05-14-2009
Wed, 06-10-2009 - 4:46pm
The sex is better now than in the beginning.
“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 06-13-2006
Wed, 06-10-2009 - 8:21pm

No, there was no indication anything is over; in fact, just the opposite. Like I said, I think the free thinking time plays games with our heads.

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 9:20am

I don’t understand him, understand this, I don’t get why we haven’t talked about it since it happened (it was last Friday and nothing has been said about it not even like – that was awesome or I’m ready for round two) is that odd and typical or just plain weird?? He’s been tied up in meetings for 2 days with people, we have complimented each other and he has teased me in a sexual way on the phone but that is it – right after we did it last Friday he called me immediately and asked if I was okay, if I was disappointed, I said no way – you? He said not at all, no so maybe that was our “little talk”, I know guys are different but I am very new at this and not sure what is “normal”.


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Registered: 06-13-2006
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 3:54pm

I think the talking about it afterward to men is just "not needed"? They internalize things while we women like to talk talk talk about our feelings.


After AP and my first time, we really didn't talk about it much, either. We both knew it was great and that there would be more.


If he is flirting with you in a sexual way and asked your feelings about how it went...I would not sweat it. He wants more but he is tied up.


:)

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Registered: 06-13-2006
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 4:03pm

I tried to email you and it would not go thru...I would like to answer the email you sent me. Any ideas?


Thanks

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 5:00pm

OMG now he is “ending” it AGAIN due to him not being a “good guy” and that I will end up hating him and he respects me and does not want to hurt me and he thinks this and that of me and I’m great and all this, says if I seduce him we will be in trouble and how he doesn’t like to plan it and all this sh*#!!


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Registered: 06-13-2006
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 5:16pm

Sounds like his way of not having to accept much responsibility for what has and is taking place, and his way of justifying why he "caves".


"If you seduce me...."


LOL

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 5:36pm
so what do you think is going to happen, do you think it's over or will he be back??