Food for thought

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Food for thought
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Thu, 12-04-2003 - 9:42am
After reading a lot posts of how one should not depend on another person for one's happiness and how somebody shouldn't make another one' s whole life got me thinking.. I guess its all good about keeping one's identity and not loosing one's beliefs and thoughts because of this other person. It means that one should be seeking out to fill a void in our life with another, but why is this said only for emotions. We seek food when we are hungry to fill a void in the stomach. There are many on this board that seek sex outside of their M because they too are filling a void in their lives that they do not get at home and some that hang around with no real reason other than to find an excuse to post. Why it it then that seeking out for physical voids is much less counsel worthy than people who want their emotions fulffilled. Don't get me wrong here, I am not judging anybody in any of the situations described above, but trying to figure out the general masses, that's all. Maybe I am not understanding something here.


Edited 12/4/2003 5:50:03 PM ET by autumnbreeze_iv

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 2:21pm
OMG, me too!! the older i get, the more i feel like i can do anything. my kids are all adults and turned out pretty damn good if i do say so myself. and i have a great job, making big $$ so i can finally support myself AND save money too! and i have great friends, the BEST girlfriend in the world, two men who love and adore me, and i look damn good for 51!

i just treated myself to a manicure AND pedicure and later i'm getting a haircut too!

if it wasn't so freakin' cold, i'd dance naked!

gurl

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 2:32pm
I'm new to these boards and just couldn't help but email you. How on earth can you be so calm and collect when it comes to your MM. I'm new to this stuff but I would like to be just friends with my MM, but can't seem to find that line in my brain that will stop the thought at that. Does that make any sense? I love my husband, but my mm seems to fill one of those voids you were talking about. Maybe it is just the conversation, but how do I get my brain to stop at that so I don't get into the what if's.

I would appreciate you thoughts.

Thanks,

T

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 2:33pm
I hear ya, Gurl:):) I'm right beside you on all counts:)Except it's not very cold here so By God, I think I will dance naked later today! LOL......NMR
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Thu, 12-04-2003 - 2:51pm
I think that as I've grown older, wiser and more secure with myself (body, mind and sprit) that I look at MM differently than I ever had another man. He is my friend and I treat him just as I would any friend. If he doesn't call me when he says he is I don't freak out and start being all insecure. You know the wondering, what's he doing, what's he's thinking, have I done something to piss him off. If he doesn't call me there is always a very good reason behind it (Simple as that and vice versa). I truly believe we get what we reflect. To me if a man or a friend becomes to clingy or possessive of me I pull away. As far as filling the voids, once again I fill my own voids. If something is bothering me, I will be the first one to speak up. Ok, Ok, I’ve gone on a tangent. Sorry! I love my husband too but I get something else from MM. We share a lot of the same interest such as cooking, throwing parties, gardening, etc..... Don't be afraid to speak up! If he doesn't chime in, then take a good look and make sure he's right for you. If he were a women friend and there was no talking or communication, would you stay friends? What do you want out of your EMA. Am I making any sense at all or am I just going off like a madd woman :) Good luck, NMR
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 3:25pm
by the light of your MM's eyes, no doubt!

YOU GO GIRL! ;-))))))

gurl

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