Found out recently I am the other woman
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| Tue, 03-31-2009 - 3:02pm |
I started dating a man last October. I work and so does he an environment where you work 2 wks on and 2 wks off. We spend a lot of time together. The 2 wks in WY. Then he goes home for 2 wks. At first I did not question it. His work gives him housing for only work"time". He told me he has 6 kids. Which are all over the age of 25. He also said he had been married 3 times. Then after christmas he was going home for New Years. He said his ex-wife was trying to reconcile with him and he didn't know what to do. I mentioned I would fly and spend NYE with him. He told me no, at this point he needed time to figure out what to do. While I thought that was wierd and confronted him and asked if he was married. He told me NO. Before that happened he told me many times he loves me, and I

They all make you feel oh-so-loved when they're with you. That's how they keep you hooked in. But someone you should make you feel loved when they're NOT with you, as well. Which by all accounts, he doesn't. How can he? He's with his wife then. Don't believe everything he tells you about her. Afterall, he married her not once, but twice. She can't be all THAT bad. These MM tell us these things so that we feel oh-so-badly for them and want to make it all better. She may very well be a great person, but you can bet HE won't tell you this.
Look, up until this point you didn't know that he was, in fact, married. Now that you know you have two choices...be content being nothing more than a mistress to him, which I have very little doubt will be the case, or end it now, before you find yourself on the unhappy roller coaster that affairs are. I know you have feelings for him, but those were feelings based on the assumption that he was FREE. He's not. He may act like it when he's away from home and with you, but rest assured, when he goes home, he is very much a married man.
For your sake, I hope you choose to get out of this before you get in any deeper.