FREAKING OUT ... BAD!!!! Need advice.

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FREAKING OUT ... BAD!!!! Need advice.
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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:05am

So I went to the dentist yesterday and she mentioned that my gums were bleeding a lot which she said could happen if you're due for your period ... which I'm not, but my last period about 2 weeks ago was much lighter and shorter than normal ... still a day of really heavy bleeding though ... anyway during both my previous pregnancies one of the things that happened to me was that my gums bled almost every time I brushed my teeth ... so I went and bought a test yesterday and took it first thing this am ... it was not the darkest of lines, but there is most definitely a line there ... I can't go get another one or do anything else about it until tomorrow ... but I am obviously freaking out ... so the question is ... do I say anything to him? Why should I have to spend the next 24 + hours freaking out on my own ... but if it's not + then will I have freaked him out for nothing ... and if this is the case he will most certainly run for the hills .... and i don't want to lose him ... What is wrong with me? Here I might be pregnant by a man other than my husband and I'm worried about losing him ... yet I also don't want to spend the next 24 hours dealing with this by myself ...

What should I do???????

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Registered: 05-19-2010
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:13am

I am brand new here so dont really know what to advice but just relax.You could be pregnant by H??
Dont say anything to your AP till you are 100% sure that you really are expecting and its not H's.

There are many options out there- abortion ( worst case scenario).

Relax.

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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:16am
I should preface I haven't had sex with H is over a year .. NO CHANCE it's his ....
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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:20am
Which makes the freaking out worse ... and I keep asking why should I have to go through this alone ... whatever the results ... the next 24 hours are going to be a disaster for me ... why does he get off without having to deal with it? My head is spinning right now!
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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:22am

No wonder you are having an A !!

Why not take another test? Better still, tomorrow.Till then you gotta relax and not worry.Are you M and AP too?I am sorry ,dont know your story ( or any other for that matter,chanced upon the site!).

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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:25am

Dont say anything to him till you are sure,I repeat myself.How do you know that he will get away with it?? He may stand by you?? Trust,all will be fine.

Can you abort? Sorry if its too sensitive.I am just trying to help and talk you out as I am online now.

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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:26am

We are both M and I can't get another test until tomorrow (I am alone with my kids all day and there would just be no way to do it) ... this test was + ... there is no question about that ...

So I suffer in silence until tomorrow? Relaxing isn't too much of an option right now ... I wish it was ... meanwhile he's going about his life as if everything is fine ... why should I be going through this alone?

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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:29am
I could never and would never abort ... just my own personal choice ... but what I'm saying is that there is no way for me to take another test until tomorrow and I will definitely be talking to him before then ... so why should I have to be the one freaking out by myself? We are in this entire thing together yet I feel so 100% alone right now.
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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:29am
If you are 100% sure then you MUST tell him, why wait for tomorrow? Contact him NOW.This is serious.
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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:31am
This test was definitely +, but what if there's that small chance it's wrong ... I know he will ask me to take another one which I can't do until tomorrow ... I'm losing my mind here ...
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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:35am

Even if its' -' tomorrow, it will give him a wake up call atleast and be careful from next time,if its +, then well , he is responsible and you both have to decide what to do.

I respect your personal choice of not to abort but some decisions have to be taken and choices have to be made,unfortunately.

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