Free time coming up for us

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Free time coming up for us
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Thu, 12-11-2003 - 9:02pm
My MM and I have not really discussed what we're doing yet. We've just kinda let things happen. It so happens though that his W is leaving to go out of town next week with the kids for the holidays. Not sure how long she'll be gone, but I want to make sure he knows that I am open to spending as much time as possible together. Our problems (2), are first of all, we live in an apartment complex, so there are MANY nosy neighbors, and I am sure that will make him uncomfortable, and second, my kids will still be here. My youngest is too young to even realize there is anything strange about him being over, but my other child is getting old enough that there may be question why he stops by when his kids aren't around. I will have an opportunity to talk to him alone this weekend, and would like to approach this with him. Any suggestions? Also, as I said, we haven't really talked about where either of us see this going. Is it bad of me to tell him that I am in this for the here and now, and that I don't expect anything from him as far as a future? I don't want to sound like I have no morals, but I don't want him to worry about me pressuring him either. Advice please!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2003
Thu, 12-11-2003 - 10:39pm
I can relate. Get a sitter and go to a hotel and enjoy your time together while the W is out of town.

Do you know how he feels about you? Does he have any intentions of leaving his W for you? Is he happily married? If you know the answers to the questions, it is okay to ask him the questions.

My MM and I are in our relationship as FWB's. We enjoy each other and we are wanting to have this A. We plan "business trips" together to get away. Neither of us plan to leave our spouses and we have communicated about this. If the playing field is even, it can be a great relationship. He may be relieved to know that you are not wanting him for marriage.