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| Sat, 05-08-2004 - 2:11am |
I'm wondering how often you get together. My MM and I were thinking of trying to cool down to once a month, but haven't been able to yet. We've got together sometimes twice a week. He's been on vacation with his dh for the last week, and I wonder how that will change things too!

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A week ago yesterday, he sent me an email saying a major project had been changed and he would need to focus on it, not certain if we could meet for lunch. I told him that wasn't a problem, to focus on the project and, if he could drop me an email during the week if he had the chance. Surprisingly, he mail me every day. Each day the email was longer. Thursday morning, I had an email from him asking me if I could slip away for lunch. I emailed back that I could, but asked if he should probably focus on the project. To my utter delight, he emailed back saying, "I can't focus because I really "need" to see you." :) You have NO idea how wonderful that made me feel! We met for lunch, but it was I who reminded him we had taken 1-1/2 hours, and he really needed to get back to work.
I *hope* by keeping our focus on our lives outside the "A", we won't make mistakes, and this is a long happy A. But in all honesty, I will miss him very much when we go on vacation this summer. He is leaving the week before I go, so that means we won't have any contact for two weeks! Yikes!
P. S. As usual, the W called four times during that 1-1/2 lunch. THAT would drive me mad.
And the W calling 4 times..what is up with that??
My guy just came back from a vacation with his girlfriend. It didn't change anything about how we were with each other, except there was an urgency and a need to it that never existed before after one of his vacations with her. I guess we've just gotten a bit closer and so missed each other that much more than before.
Lucky
With the vacation thing he took W to the Carribean V day weekend and I sure he would come back saying that she saw the light and they reconnected but it was quite the opposite. Also I just went away with H for a weekend and it was really nice but I couldn't wait to be with mm just so he knew it didn't affect our relationship. He seemed a little bit concerned, with all the questions he had! :)
deedee
It's ironic to me that a kind, generous spirit that my MM is, has a shrew for a wife, and I have a husband who has chosen the bottle over his family. One of life's little jokes, no?
MM and I live barely a 20 min drive away from each other... but seeing as we are both married with young children... he works full time... and besides being a SAHM... I also study part time.
Sweet
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When you say 'get together' is that in general or how often do we have intimate contact -
MM and I had (still unclear where we are in the EMA) what I called Drive-by's -
these could be anywhere from 10 minute hi- kiss me tell me you miss me see you later by the way you look great...
to lunches - meeting at the park for a little walk and conversation - a hug (cuz sometimes I really needed those hugs) or there are the spend several hours together -
On any of the drive-by's I was gaurantee'd kisses ...sometimes depending on the mood or the location more - and the drive-by's could be as frequent as 3-4 or even 5 days a week or as infrequent as once per week -
When we plan for more it's usually once a month - the build up to it is amazing and would get us both anxious and nervous and it was always incredible -
We always would say we needed more but when it comes down to scheduling it's hard to squeeze it in between what he has going on - and what I have going on so we both would try not to expect more than once a month - if it happened great - the drive-by's usually keep us content until we can really be together -
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