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| Fri, 01-30-2004 - 12:09pm |
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
...one old love she can imagine going back to...
… and one who reminds her how far she has come...
…enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own even if she never wants to or needs to...
…something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
…a youth she's content to leave behind... …a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age...
...a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
…one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
...a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
...eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored..
…a feeling of control over her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
..how to fall in love without losing herself...
...how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship… …when to walk away... ...that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents... ...that her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over... ...what she would and wouldn't do for love or more... ...how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it... ...whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally... ...where to go... be it to her best friend's kitchen table... or a charming inn in the woods when her soul needs soothing... ...what she can and can't accomplish in an hour, a month...and a year...

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CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
I couldn't resist!
"I had rather hear my dog bark at a crow than a man swear he loves me."
--Beatrice, In William Shakespeare, Much Ado About Nothing
Seeburg
Newday, your quotes are interesting, and I too would like to hear something from "you".
As for the other fun loving ladies...it is good you feel you are very happy. Curious question...why do you think some people can be just as happy as you claim to be (even more so), without the element of deceit and manipulation?
Also, I really love all the camaraderie. But what would your feelings be IF you discovered your OM/MM/BF/SO was also fooling around with one of your "commrades" on this board? I know, it is very far fetched, but truth be known...stranger things have happened. Would the camaraderie still be there for that person?
Just a very sincere questions from a very courious person. It would be interesting to hear from those happy enough to not ignore the questions.
Pen
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
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of course, if it was one of us on the board discovering the A, that person would be upset and hurt, just as all of us involved in A/EMAs know that our SOs would be hugely hurt by such a discovery! does that stop our involvement? nope, just makes us more careful!!>>>>>
I post "redundant" questions because I never really get a straight answer. Better question...why rarely a straight answer? The question was not about hurt, it was about camaraderie toward another OW if SHE were seeing your MM? The two are not mutually exclusive. Example: I could be up for a promotion at work and really want the job, but a friend and colleague of mine may get it fair and square. I would be disappointed that it was not me, and a little upset for a while. But I'd still show approval and support to the colleague. Would you still be approving and supportive to another OW who "snagged" MM from you, being that you can identify where she came from and walked in her shoes so to speak?
Also there was another question about your take on people who are as happy as you (or even more so) without deceit and manipulation.
Thanks
Pen
Maybe your question wasn’t answered because you spelled comrade wrong. Maybe you threw a few people off. LOL
Another hint: “definately” is spelled definitely.
Maybe you should work on your spelling before attempting to pose such philosophical questions.
The comrade question…maybe, maybe not.
The happiness question…SO???...live and let live.
There you go.
Do I feel guilty? Hell no. My H made his decision. Alcohol is his #1 love for now. And I am a young woman (42 and luvin it). Too young to live without an intimate relationship. Its not so easy however, to just leave someone who you do love. He is happy with his booze, I am happy with my MM. The way things are right now, I can go on like this for awhile yet. I feel like I am getting what I need to make me content. He gets his contentment from the liquor store.
Is it deceitful? You bet. But he deceives me by drinking to excess and not giving me what I need as a woman and a wife.
Maybe in a couple of years I will leave the relationship and look for a real relationship with someone who is able to give me what I need. But for now, I think that MM is filling myneed, and he says I am filling his.
BTW, my 1st H cheated on me, I caught him in a parking lot in his vehicle with a girl between his legs. But I was willing to try and work things out. But it was not working. We had grown so far apart in what we wanted out of life. It really didn't even have to do with that girl at all.
I am not so concerned about splitting hairs over spelling as I like to ask curious questions. Otherwise, my replies would revolve around the many mispellings I see all over this board vs. asking "hard questions". But seeing as you are good with your dictionary and all, I already know you are smart enough to realize that... aren't you?
Yes, live and let live. I have not stopped anyone from doing what they like. I just like to ask. If that bothers you, I am sure you can get over it...can't you?
Pen
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