Friendly Lunch

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Registered: 03-11-2010
Friendly Lunch
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Wed, 03-24-2010 - 4:30pm

My MM decided to break it off with me at the end of Jan. He was tired of leading a double life and lying...blah blah blah. Okay so I wasn't ready to but of course what can I do but comply. So we have stayed in contact with emails and texts from time to time. It is always pg except for a few times. So we usually only saw each other at night and during the week. So now I get a text saying he wants to meet for daytime lunch...and keep it nice and friendly. So I am finding this to be very hard in my head. What the heck is he doing? Please help me out here. Does he really care and want to be friends? Does he think this is possible. He was the one who told me it is very hard to be around you because of the intense feelings I have. So is this to try and wheel me along. It is so hard for me because I feel very mixed about the whole thing. When he does talk to me he talks of funny things with his kids etc...and things he is doing. I really think he thinks we can be friends. Why does he want me in his life at all. We are both M with kids. I am totally confused.


HELP

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Registered: 10-03-2009
In reply to: ange0406
Wed, 03-24-2010 - 9:33pm
could be a typical "cake" syndrome.. who knows.. or he just wants to keep you on side the "just in case".. whatever the reason, you are not and cannot approach this the same way he is.. the healthies thing for you to do is go NC and move on.. there is just too much history here.. time to open a new page.. and close a well-read book for good..
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Registered: 02-06-2010
In reply to: ange0406
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 1:29am

i don't know what "cake" syndrome is.


however, i think it sounds like he wants to make out with you again, he probably misses touching you, and you know if you see him you'll wind up kissing (or more). so be honest with yourself, and if u want to see him: go for it. but beware.


good luck!


when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal