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| Fri, 10-24-2003 - 9:59am |
Hey girls!
i am wondering......What is your opinion on being able to remain friends with your MM after the A? My MM and I were the best of friends before the A, and were for a long time. Now the A is over, but we are still hanging out, going to dinner, having coffee, talking and emailing, just no sex. Is this possible? Or is it making things difficult?
Thanks!
sassy
i am wondering......What is your opinion on being able to remain friends with your MM after the A? My MM and I were the best of friends before the A, and were for a long time. Now the A is over, but we are still hanging out, going to dinner, having coffee, talking and emailing, just no sex. Is this possible? Or is it making things difficult?
Thanks!
sassy

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"blue"
MM and I were the best of friends before, so i think we shouldn't sacrifice the friendship for an ended A, but we still love eachother very much, we are still both married........and i am not sure what the future will bring. We know if we should be together, that we need to be together if and when our marriages do not work. I mean, we must leave our marriages because our marriages are over, if they are, and not b/c of the love we have for eachother. The future will tell. But for now, i don't want to be without his friendship, but I also have a hard time seeing him without thinking too much. I miss him terribly! We have dinner or coffee every month or so, but we see eachother at the gym everyother day. It is hard, it has only been 6 months since the A ended, and it was mutual to end, but i miss him still. Time will heal!
thanks!
sassy
I'm glad to hear of others who have maintained the friendship after the A is over. Just because certain relationships don't work out, does not mean there is anything specifically wrong with the individuals involved. Things don't always have to end badly....sometimes they just end.
Hugs,
Annika
Brightest Blessings, Annika
Hi sassy,
I think it's good that you have been able to remain friends and why shouldn't you? a lot of affairs don't usually end this way as one party to the relationship has more than likely stretched the boundaries and things have not ended up the way they wanted and after that it's hard to remain friends.
My MM has always said that if I want out, he would respect my decision... as I would his... and I like to think that under these circumstances we would remain friends... I think the only way we wouldn't is for something to go extremely wrong... which I don't even dare to think about.
As long as you both agree with the situation and neither of you want more from it... then go ahead and enjoy the friendship that you have.
luv and hugs
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we actually decided together that we needed to go back to our resepctive homes and take care of unfinished business......very hard b/c we love eachother, and our spouses are not where we want to be, but if we leave our M, it is for ourselves, not eachother, we leave b/c the M is over, and take care of ourselves first. i am not sure where the cards will fall, but our friendship is important, and that comes first. although it is extremely hard not to look at him and think into it, or long to be with him, but i respect him enough to hold back, which again is hard. but you do what you have to. everything happens for a reason, and and if is is meant to be, it will. but for now, i am taking care of me! good luck!