Friends after it ends...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2009
Friends after it ends...
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Sat, 03-28-2009 - 12:33am

This has nothing to do with my original posts. I don't talk about it much - but I was in a relationship with someone a few years ago. I hesitate to get into TOO many details

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2008
Sat, 03-28-2009 - 10:37am

Hi notsure,


Yes, I believe you can still be friends after it's ended.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2009
Sat, 03-28-2009 - 3:34pm
Oh wow. Our situations sound sooooooo very much alike. I think you and I have a ton to chat about. I will update my profile later to include an email address
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2008
Sat, 03-28-2009 - 3:44pm
I would absolutely welcome that!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2009
Sat, 03-28-2009 - 9:55pm

I know most people would say that attempting to be friends after an emotionally charged "A" is a bad idea, but I don't necessarily believe that.


I can't imagine no longer being friends with him. He means a whole heck of a lot to me and I truly feel there would be an emptiness to my life without him in it. He always tells me he misses me and I tell him the same -- because I DO miss him when I don't get to see or talk to him.


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2008
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 8:14am

I know what you mean.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-12-2008
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 4:30pm

I too have remained friends with my ex AP. It has been 7 months since we broke up as his wife begged him to go to marriage counseling and work on their marriage. She did not know about me.He felt too guilty continuing the affair but wanted to remain friends. We had been together emotionally and physically for

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2007
Fri, 04-03-2009 - 12:04pm

While I don't necessarily agree with the fact that you can NEVER EVER be friends with a fromer AP, I think it presents challenges. And from my personal experience, the "friendship" really just became a way of leaving the door open for the A to restart at some point. Similarly, in my experience, the "friendship" was a way of transitioning from a full blown PA/EA to an EA.

~Shadowz
~Shadowz
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2009
Fri, 04-03-2009 - 12:47pm

It's interesting to read these replies.


If

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2008
Fri, 04-03-2009 - 1:58pm

I do believe you can still be friends as well.