Friends after it ends...
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Friends after it ends...
| Sat, 03-28-2009 - 12:33am |
This has nothing to do with my original posts. I don't talk about it much - but I was in a relationship with someone a few years ago. I hesitate to get into TOO many details

Hi notsure,
Yes, I believe you can still be friends after it's ended.
I know most people would say that attempting to be friends after an emotionally charged "A" is a bad idea, but I don't necessarily believe that.
I can't imagine no longer being friends with him. He means a whole heck of a lot to me and I truly feel there would be an emptiness to my life without him in it. He always tells me he misses me and I tell him the same -- because I DO miss him when I don't get to see or talk to him.
I know what you mean.
I too have remained friends with my ex AP. It has been 7 months since we broke up as his wife begged him to go to marriage counseling and work on their marriage. She did not know about me.He felt too guilty continuing the affair but wanted to remain friends. We had been together emotionally and physically for
While I don't necessarily agree with the fact that you can NEVER EVER be friends with a fromer AP, I think it presents challenges. And from my personal experience, the "friendship" really just became a way of leaving the door open for the A to restart at some point. Similarly, in my experience, the "friendship" was a way of transitioning from a full blown PA/EA to an EA.
It's interesting to read these replies.
If
I do believe you can still be friends as well.