Frustration with Patience
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Frustration with Patience
| Wed, 08-05-2009 - 2:52pm |
Okay so I have continued this affair. By my own choice I maintained contact, initally it was to be
| Wed, 08-05-2009 - 2:52pm |
Okay so I have continued this affair. By my own choice I maintained contact, initally it was to be
You can't fix people who doesn't want to be fixed. You don't know what really is going on between your AP and his W unless you're a fly on their wall. Seems like he's feeding you lies to keep you dangling. A man who's unhappy will NOT stay where he's at. He will leave even if he DOESN'T have a 'side dish" waiting around in the wings. That tells me you could be wanting too much and waiting around for a future with a MM who have no intention of going anywhere with you. Talk is cheap and it seems like your AP is finding all the excuses in the books as his reason for doing what he's doing. He is a big boy who is capable of taking care of himself. He doesn't need you to tell him what to do, hence, why nothing has changed.
I understand the need for making excuses for him and for yourself so you can continue with this fantasy. Just know your limit and keep it real with the expectations.
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I guess I was not as clear as I thought. Many thoughts jumbled around.
I do know what is going on between them as I have seen their postings to each other, and AP and I talk almost daily about things at home. I have been quite blunt with him regarding reasons he is still there and we have talked at length about that. He has no one else he feels he can trust so I am his friend as well.
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Scarlett, if you feel there is hope, don't give up as you may be the courage he needs. When YOU no longer feel you can cope, then deal with that accordingly. You know this man as good as you ever will so I would advise you to act on your knowledge and history with him.
Blessings.
Edited 8/9/2009 6:58 am ET by sometimesblue
Thank you so much for your reply. We have been talking more and more lately and especially about D-day. We are on the same wavelength as right before I said it, he said it is only a matter of time before