The frustration is unbearable

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Registered: 08-04-2009
The frustration is unbearable
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Mon, 06-07-2010 - 2:52pm

Do you constantly fight with your AP?


We argue every day. He's frustrated that I'm still with DH. I fight back because he doesn't understand why I'm still with DH. It's catch 22 with no resolution in sight. It's not romantic and the frustration causes intense dissatisfaction.


Have you been through this?


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Registered: 05-19-2010
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 3:13pm

You are M and AP is S who sleeps around ( I browsed your older posts) and is pressurising you to leave H.

Dump him or let it run its course.If it brings more pain than happiness,its time to end.

A guy who sleeps around is never a good bet even if he is S and I was S too !

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Registered: 08-02-2000
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 3:17pm
Then why continue?
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Registered: 06-06-2010
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 3:39pm
We do fight, but would not say constantly! It sounds like your affair is reaching a point to call it a quit. Constant fighting is too much for an affair! Of course, you know your situation better, but is it worthy fighting and bickering constantly? It also sounds like he has some expectations...is he married?


Edited 6/7/2010 3:41 pm ET by discreetboston
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Registered: 05-03-2010
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 4:50pm

I've had one "fight" with AP (he says it was just an expression of frustration, not fighting), and it was over the situation with my H.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 5:59pm

Unfortunately, I do fight with AP/BF a lot. I also think that it's going to be the end of us.

For me...I can't seem to (in my heart) accept that he doesn't really love me..at least not enough to leave his dysfunctional M for me. I'm starting to realize that I will never win with him. When I question this with him, all of a sudden I instantly become the bad guy...we had a fight just the other day and I so wish I had recorded it, I was GOBSMACKED. He is absolutely blind, absolutely right about HIS feelings...blah, blah.

Anyhow, I know what you mean about unbearable frustration. I'm facing it at about the rate of every 2 or 3 days. Nothing is ever done, or said, right...unbearably frustrating. Guess who's always wrong?

benska