Future OM?? ( sorry so long)
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| Wed, 04-21-2004 - 2:48pm |
We talk and joke, (usually sexual)in class,( we are a very open class ) and about 2 months ago, were talking before class and somehow exchanged nrs. Nothing serious, and no contact from either side really. But we have chemistry and good body language.
One day i joked about not getting an email ( he promised to send) he said he is busy and i just said, well i wont wait forever and kept walking. later that day I got one. Nothing serious, a dirty joke and some things in his language we joked about in class.
So i emailed back, and nothing, we saw eachother later that week in class, nothing really, but my H was outta town, so i text messaged Jan-. Asked if he was scared of me :-)
he replied quickly, ' not at all, are you disappointed?' i said ,' a bit. so give me one reason you can't come over this weekend for a movie?'
He responded with , ' are you aking me out on a date.. ?' then nothing..
I got no reply so texted apologising for pushing him, ' he said, no movie, but why dont we go to a club, ugh?' ( i still wonder why the ugh?)
I said, sure, sounds great, what time?
and the next msg 10 min later was, 'never mind, change of plans maybe some other time.'
i phoned him that night to see what was up and while i had him on the phone he was talking to his gf. i asked if he was okay, he said all was fine, just a change of plans, and went on talking to her, so i hung up. i was so confused. what the hell was he doing?
so a few weeks have passed now. We still flirt a bit in class, and last week he emailed. I didn't write back, and thanked him when i saw him in person a week later, and his reply was,' oh so you can get emails from me, i thóught you couldnt get them or something'
i said, 'i did, i just didn't want to be too eager' and i couldnt believe my ears when he said, ' yeah you have been too eager'
so anywaý, later in class, he made some noteworthý comments when we were talking about our favorite eye color. I said, blue, and he piped up, ' oh you like blue, thats great to hear' ( he has blue) and later a comment on a football player, i found attractive, he said, ' oh i thought you only like rockstars and guys with long hair' (he is neither)
just jealous sounding comments. weird. I sent him a dirty joke later that day, but i dunno. I was moving too fast and he backed off, so now i am just mellow and he seems pissed. should i try again?? maybe asking him to a movie??any advice is thanked in advance..

my advice -- don't ask him out for a movie or anything else. let him come to you. OM needs to make the connection via email and/or phone calls. and i would also let him make the next few moves to demonstrate that OM really wants to hang out with you. if OM demonstrates his willingness to go forward with the A, then it's up to you whether or not you want to hook up. make sure this is what you want instead of working on your R with H.
good luck.
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