FWB vs Affair. Is there a difference?
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FWB vs Affair. Is there a difference?
| Sun, 01-04-2009 - 11:52am |
So, I am in a FWB situation in the sense that that's what he (AP) calls it. A friend who knows both of us from work asked me flat out if we were having an affair. So what is the difference? Is there one?
AP and I are attracted to each other, live in different states but work for the same company. We text, email, and talk on the phone regularly. We are physical when we see each other incl sex. Neither one of us is interested in leaving our M or kids so I guess that is different. We aren't unhappy in our M. So what's the difference between this an A? Isn't this R an A??
AP and I are attracted to each other, live in different states but work for the same company. We text, email, and talk on the phone regularly. We are physical when we see each other incl sex. Neither one of us is interested in leaving our M or kids so I guess that is different. We aren't unhappy in our M. So what's the difference between this an A? Isn't this R an A??

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Yep, it's an A. I am thinking that your AP is calling it FWB to alleviate his guilt. He is probably thinking that if there isn't love involved that it makes it different, but, guess what. Sleeping with someone else, while you are married is an A. (Please don't think I am judging, I had more A's while I was married than I care to count.)
So, when your co-worker asks if you are having an A, you either fess up, or deny, deny, deny.
Good luck, we are here for you whenever you need us.
mom
It is what it is now. I do know he has cheated on his W before but he said it was a one time thing.
I guess at this point, what keeps me going is knowing there is an end in sight, no matter how temporary. I am planning on working on baby #2 with H this summer. So obviously won't be fooling around w/AP while trying or while preggers. I actually doubt we'd be able to see each other for a year after this spring. After all that, who knows what will happen.
I am happy to know him and despite the fact he is in an A, he is a good man in terms of being a father, etc. I think he is probably a good H to his W in every other sense but the A.
I did want clarification though that FWB is an A, no matter how good your M may be.
I guess they both are the same, no difference! except that its more sexually orientated.Just be careful as once a word spreads at work,it can turn nasty.my AP and I work together but we are very careful!
But, like I said, none of us will be in the same room for months and then after that it'll be a year or so and by then who knows if the A will be paused, over, or continued... ???
Wow...is your AP my XAP?
We've actually planned a get together soon- just the two of us, none work-related, so maybe he'll own up to it *IF* there is actually any talking....
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