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General advice needed?
| Sun, 08-24-2008 - 12:53pm |
Just after some gen advice here!
Ok AP went on hols on the 16th Aug 2008, prior to this my nan was in hos and he could not have been anymore supportive than he has been, he came round more times in the few weeks since she was in hos than he had the prev 3 months!
His supported me in many ways and before he went on hols he even admitted that he was inlove with me! (totally unlike him - his the MM) with kids and W!
Before he went on hols I told him that one of my relatives from Devon was coming down and he has this curiosity about him which left me a little baffled?
None of my family know about me and AP other than my nan which i live with, well he kept asking what date this relative was coming down? almost as if dropping hints., when he knows he wouldn't be able to meet them or get the time of hols with W?
Ok AP went on hols on the 16th Aug 2008, prior to this my nan was in hos and he could not have been anymore supportive than he has been, he came round more times in the few weeks since she was in hos than he had the prev 3 months!
His supported me in many ways and before he went on hols he even admitted that he was inlove with me! (totally unlike him - his the MM) with kids and W!
Before he went on hols I told him that one of my relatives from Devon was coming down and he has this curiosity about him which left me a little baffled?
None of my family know about me and AP other than my nan which i live with, well he kept asking what date this relative was coming down? almost as if dropping hints., when he knows he wouldn't be able to meet them or get the time of hols with W?


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I know the basics that he is obviously making a effort etc....
But i would appreciate anyone who may have more insight than maybe I do in this type of situation and who may have some wisdom to share?
LT xxx
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I don't have any insight or wisdom to share on this - because really, you are asking us to tell you what this guy is thinking. No idea. But, the only thing I can offer is that you are over-thinking this. It could mean something, it could mean nothing. The important thing is to not focus or obsess over something that could be completely meaningless. That said, if you need to obsess over it, at least do it here and not to AP - he might think you're losing your mind, and I mean that in the nicest way.
But as to what his behavior says? It says he's not a selfish a-hole. Your nan has been sick - he's being a decent human being by supporting you. You have a relative coming to visit. He's being decent by showing an interest in your life. He's in contact with you while on vacation with his W because either (1) he misses you; or (2) he wants to make sure you miss him.
I read a book recently and the best quote that I remember from it is so simple, yet so true: "It doesn't matter". It doesn't matter what you think he meant. It doesn't matter if he meant nothing. It doesn't matter if it meant something. We obsess over things that just plain don't matter. I think if you can come
I do read into these things...I know I do...I suppose because im me...lol
I come here because I know that you will always give me sound advice and support...there was a lot of other stuff I was going to post but when the T's were around it kind of put me off!
Your last bit of advice about relaxing and just asking him what he meant went down really well with AP who since has opened up to me completely (he was open before just not in a "as if i was his wife kinda way!, which he does now!")
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He's asking because he's interested in you as a person. He takes in interest in your life outside the A. Be happy that he is interested! I'm an overanalyser too, but it's not a good thing for an A. For me there can be days without direct contact with AP, so I'm learning not to overanalyse because I can't get back and ask him. Yes, you do need to slow the ride a little or you'll get thrown off, lol. The way to handle an A is to take what you get and enjoy it for what it is.
Pisces
Pisces...being the same sign as me...you always seem to understand my motives...it is nice to know that
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Another pisces? Yay. I'm not sure if you do it too, but I find I can easily put myself into another's place and get an idea of what they're thinking. Another trait typical of the sign that I do well is fitting in with other people so it's hard to remember what it is I really want and what it was I'm fitting into with them. Meaning it's very hard to remember to stay me for me.
Dragmeaway just did my siggie. She's the best!
Pisces
Thank you, and you are welcome.
Yep i am another pisces...I wont discuss religion but it goes to say that i have been involved in a nature orientated religion that involves physic skills etc since I was a youngster...but im not the hippie kinda person, im quite practical and down to earth, but I do love having good intuition as sometimes its a life saver!
and on occasion I have physically taken on anothers pain and its not that nice but does allow the other person to heal...whilst also healing you!
I do usually find that I am willing to put out for others to a huge extent If i feel they have a worthy cause and I always hate hurting others....however I do have a sharp tongue - do you find these kinda things?
I do love sharks, thats my kinda fish - A great white shark..
I was born 1981 - which year were you born?
Can I ask what a siggie is?
Thanks again pisces,
LT xxx
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