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Getting Antsy
| Thu, 01-08-2004 - 12:48pm |
Well, I just don't know what to think at this point. Haven't heard from MM at all this week yet, I expected he would back at his job.
After we went thru 8-1/2 weeks NC (his choice) this fall, now I am always worried when I don't hear from him, that he's changed his mind again about seeing me.
I'm not fooling myself about love or anything, but I do have fond feelings for him and would really miss him if that's the case.
Also, if he does this to me again (NC for a long time), should I take him back? I'm giving him til beginning of next week to contact me, but if I don't hear from him til after then, then what?? Any suggestions?? Could use some advice!! Thanks.
Dusty

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I really, really feel for you, I have been watching you post on and off over this man for a while now, and I don’t know, it just doesn’t sound too good and I hate to see you so torn all the time.
This is what I would do, and maybe some would think this is bad advice...DO NOT contact him or email him. He will email you again -- without a doubt. When he does, do not email him back for a while. Wait a longer period of time than you normally would to get back to him -- let HIM wait. Next time he asks to get together, no matter how much you want to see him, do NOT meet him. Let me repeat, DO NOT MEET HIM! Tell him you can’t, you’re busy, etc. In fact, the best thing to do is to GET busy and actually not see him because of that! Let him miss you and wonder about you!!! See what happens.
I think whatever the outcome of this you will feel better about yourself. Even if this thing does die out between you two, you can let it die with YOUR dignity intact. If he does come around, take it from there (but like nomo said, really think about what you truly want from this relationship). Hope this helps a bit.
Hang in there!
Charlotte
i know you're itching to find out what's going on by getting in forceable contact with your MM, but don't you have the answer staring you in the face? obviously, you are not even on his radar or he would have at least responded to your email.
absolutely you cannot take MM back if there is a prolonged period of NC again. you need to stay busy and distracted, every day, as much as possible, so you don't fall into the black hole of "when will MM contact me? is it over?? i miss him????"
do you really want to continue this R with someone who has very little respect for your feelings??
gurl
Dusty
Dusty
If you're lucky enough to have someone you can count on for that sort of support don't be afraid to ask them to help you do it.
stay strong, keep really busy and do whatever YOU WANT TO DO!
love ya,
gurl
Hang in
Jen
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