Getting Antsy

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Getting Antsy
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Thu, 01-08-2004 - 12:48pm
Well, I just don't know what to think at this point. Haven't heard from MM at all this week yet, I expected he would back at his job.

After we went thru 8-1/2 weeks NC (his choice) this fall, now I am always worried when I don't hear from him, that he's changed his mind again about seeing me.

I'm not fooling myself about love or anything, but I do have fond feelings for him and would really miss him if that's the case.

Also, if he does this to me again (NC for a long time), should I take him back? I'm giving him til beginning of next week to contact me, but if I don't hear from him til after then, then what?? Any suggestions?? Could use some advice!! Thanks.

Dusty

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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: dustyrose2
Thu, 01-08-2004 - 4:27pm
Yes its happy hour somewhere now. Whew!! made it without him. I'm going home now, I'll see how it goes tomorrow, maybe I'll come online later, take care everyone.

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In reply to: dustyrose2
Thu, 01-08-2004 - 4:29pm
Holly Cow, I go to have a quick cup of soup and you girls are exploding:):) Dusty, Go have a smoke and blow it right in his face! Please, don't ever change your behavior to please someone else. It's not a good idea. Hell with the wine lets break open the tequila:):) HeeeeeHawwwwwwwwwwwwwww.... NMR
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In reply to: dustyrose2
Thu, 01-08-2004 - 6:04pm
Thanks NMR. I'm at home now, on the 2nd glass of wine. I see MM's user id went idle 1/2 hour ago. Guess he was waiting for me. Well, tomorrow I'm going to stay off and see if he contacts me. Then I think I'll play hard to get for now til I decide what I really want to do. I can't thank you all enough for helping me get thru this last couple of days, its been really rough. And I may see him again, I still have feelings for him, but he has to realize I am not his doormat!! Cheers to you all.

Dusty
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In reply to: dustyrose2
Fri, 01-09-2004 - 11:25am
Hi Dusty, Thanks for the update last night! You stay strong! I don't want Gurl telling me that you have buckled while I'm on vacation. NMR
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In reply to: dustyrose2
Fri, 01-09-2004 - 11:37am
don't worry NMR, we'll keep dusty on task!! and maybe even have some more wine too!!

gurl

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In reply to: dustyrose2
Fri, 01-09-2004 - 12:06pm
Actually I can see MM is online this morning and he has not contacted me. And I'm still holding strong, I'm not contacting him!! If I DO hear from him, I intend to keep it light and casual and not commit myself to any more meetings yet. The last time, I was so dumb and I went and met him the very next day after he contacted me after a month's NC!! How stupid was that?? I will not do a repeat of that one!! Thanks you girls, you are all great!!

Dusty
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In reply to: dustyrose2
Fri, 01-09-2004 - 12:47pm
Hang in there dusty! We are all here for you!

Keep on being strong.

dayz
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Registered: 03-30-2003
In reply to: dustyrose2
Fri, 01-09-2004 - 1:17pm
Dusty,

Please don't call MM, for your own sake. Also, get the book "Don't Call That Man" by Rhonda Findling. Gives excellent tips on getting strength to NOT call, as well as reasons, etc. You'll be back to square one.

MMs have a way of filling our voids and then in our minds (not reality) they are the greatest when in fact they're not. It's time for the blindfolds to come off and to see things for what it truly is. It hurts like hell but you come out stronger on the other side. Look into yourself and see what is best for YOU, not your H or MM, but you and start putting yourself first. All too often we are caretakers of everyone else and we neglect ourselves and so when MM comes along we think this feels so good, that's why some men only prey on MWs in the first place. I read that book in the bookstore, couldn't very well bring it home since I'm MW too and it would've given me away.

Hang in there sweets.

Luvin

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In reply to: dustyrose2
Fri, 01-09-2004 - 1:52pm
Thanks for all the advice. I am just back from lunch, I still haven't contacted him. I'm not saying that I NEVER want to see him again, because I think I still need to. But I'm not going to jump thru hoops just for the privilege!!

Dusty
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In reply to: dustyrose2
Fri, 01-09-2004 - 1:54pm
Sounds like a good plan! Keep the strength up!NMR

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