Getting back With AP-

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Getting back With AP-
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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 2:39pm

yes, i got back with AP, but there is still a lot to be worked out.

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 9:47am

oh tygerzize!

Your post sounds hurt and gloomy ! Arent you happy? Is he too blunt or what? are you the sensitive kind? Aww, what happened? come on, say it out.i'll help you.
You should be celebrating but i can sense lots of pain in your post.do you get to see him everyday? Tell me about it and feel better.
(((( hugs ))))

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 10:28am

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Edited 11/25/2008 9:34 pm ET by tygerzize


Edited 11/25/2008 9:35 pm ET by tygerzize

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 1:06pm

" but i am definately happier than not so happy..." LOL! you are crazy girl!

" sometimes it's not what he says but, how he says it.." here's a tip from an older ( wiser? not so much,lol) woman.Look at his intentions behind them.if he is changing on his own,thats a good sign but dont force it.when forced,people might do things your way for a while but not always ;-).

" ever love someone so much and passionately that you can't get enough of them and sometimes you can't stand them either......" you are a crazy girl ! Always been like this,hey? or its with him alone?

I've read so many posts here ,many are full of pain but i guess your AP is good.atleast one post where there is someone so crazy in love!
god bless.

!! ".both of us are not having that anymore." why are you putting your foot down now when you are back with him?Want him to leave M ??

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 1:38pm

do i want him to leave M? (for me)

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 2:13pm

" i wish he wasn't so attached to someone.." his being M is a fact but him being attached ( if you meant emotionally ) to her,may not be.I believe that when people are in A's, they are missing something in their M and the other person is providing that.But sometimes when people have a tolerable/good/ etc.( even sucking up ) kind of M and a chance meeting with someone or falling in love after being friends or working together ,what i mean is entry of another person with love involved, the M is never the same again.

Your guy is back.he wouldnt if he was 'attached' unless he is fooling you( sorry ).he may not say it but this step says that.

You will find a way to deal if having him in your life is worth it.

My only concern for you will be if he decides not to leave M and suck it up.I recall ,you dont want to get M, correct me if i am wrong.If that is so, then i guess, him staying M is better for you.In the sense,a M brings lots of problems with it..the bills,the kids,washing dishes etc. and the 'in love' vanishes very quickly.not to forget an ex to deal with and child support! ex tantrums, ex manipulations ,etc.etc ,you know the drill!

Its your life, you know better but if you have any question,just shout! i'll jump out of my ( not bed;-) )chair!

Stay in love, fortunate people get to feel that.

" don't know what it is!!!! " I am jealous! lol.Made for each other ?

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 3:57pm

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Edited 11/22/2008 5:22 pm ET by tygerzize

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 5:47pm

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Edited 11/22/2008 5:23 pm ET by tygerzize

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 11:30pm

I am glad to know that he came!

Your doubt that your being emotional will ruin the second chance may be saved by showing yourself being vulnerable.nothing wrong. if he always knew as unemotional, it will surprise him ! Keep that " pout look, hurt look and sad look...lol..." as a weapon ( good work!). keep building slowly, let go of some meaness on his part and be happy!

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Sat, 11-22-2008 - 2:54pm

we had a wonderful time...we really did..we just spent a genuine good time together with my son...he stayed late but, not too late..it was okay..we'll have overnights again...we treated each other very well




Edited 11/22/2008 5:24 pm ET by tygerzize

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss