Getting a Divorce!

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Registered: 03-19-2012
Getting a Divorce!
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 3:23am

Husband and I are getting a divorce after I found out he was having an A. I had one two years ago but it was a fling. I dont know if when we go thru the process of divorce if I will have to give a deposition and be asked personal questions. Does anyone know thats been thru a divorce? Is it normal to give depositions? We dont have any children I dont know if that makes a difference. Has anyone used their spouses affair as a reason for the separation or is this wrong since I did as well even though its unknown? I never knew there were all these aspects to a divorce. If anyone has any advice I would sure appreciate it. I dont want to have to answer questions under oath about who with and throw under the bus the person I had the fling with. I dont understand what to do in this type of situation. I'm a ball of nerves!

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Registered: 10-26-2010
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 7:43am
You may get better feedback on the surviving divorce board.
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Registered: 01-09-2012
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 10:44am
You should be asking your attorney. You *do* have an attorney, don't you? You can tell your attorney just about anything; he is duty-bound to keep your secrets.

May I ask, who is divorcing who? Are you using his affair against him as a reason for the divorce? Isn't that more than a little deceitful on your part?

Finally, assuming that you are in the US, I don't know that there are any states left that do not have simple no-fault divorce laws in place. Unlike in the old days, you no longer need to prove that some wrong was done in order to divorce - you simply say that you have agreed to go your separate ways and that is pretty much that. Matters of affairs, abuse, etc, normally only come into play during fights over child custody and alimony. And, alimony is not normally awarded at all these days except in the case of the very wealthy.