Getting over him?
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| Sun, 10-05-2008 - 9:10am |
Quick update on my story. Me and AP both M, I am recently separated. We broke up for a month, then got back together. He was so happy, showed me so much affection, keeps repeating how much he loves me. I started to believe things may eventually work out between us...our EA of 3 months turned into PA.
Now, few weeks later, he is acting odd. I talked to him on Thursday, offered some fun weekend plans, he said "Sounds good"...Saw him all day at work on Friday, he was very loving and attentive, called me after I left work (I finished early) and said he will call me later...and I did no hear from him til like Saturday late morning, which is kind of unusual. I was mad at this point for him not calling me as he said he would, and did not answer my phone. He called two more times, finally I cooled off enough to talk to him, and he said he is leaving town to meet his old friend from medical school. I pretended like its nothing - leaving me hanging for weekend when I offered plans for US to be together, and called him myself later at night to see how is he doing...and guess what - he sent me to voicemail and never called me back..which never happened before either.
But funny thing is...all of that really pissed me off...but a month ago I would be in tears and having anxiety attack. Now I am just mad at him for being a jackass, and feel like I am at the end of it all. Maybe I am just getting over him, like it does not have that much meaning for me anymore. If he is going to act like I am not at the top of his priorities list, then it's just not worth it for me. I felt his behavior toward me was disrespectful, and I am not taking it.
Am I overreacting?
Edited 10/5/2008 9:17 am ET by vivaciousgirl

"If he is going to act like I am not at the top of his priorities list, then it's just not worth it for me. "
Sweetheart, he's married - you will *never* be top of his priority list.
It sounds to me like you're getting a bit bored with things. I don't know if you're over reacting or not, but I think your reaction should tell you something.
D
Hi D
I know you're right...but he never made me feel like this before, he was always there for me, calling, texting, seeing me all the time, always making me feel like I am important in his life. Yes, I guess, I am getting tired and bored of this whole thing...I am kinda mad at him and plan to make a big deal out of it tomorrow when I will see him at work, but probably more for entertainment purposes then because I really care of what he is up to. I like feeling of power I have over him, because every time I make a scene, he is on his knees, begging. I always wondered how far fear of losing me may take him...when I broke up with him for a month, he went insane.
But now, I'm just surprised at my own reaction.
I just remembered his anniversary is in October, maybe he is out of town with his wife. Thought of him having sex with her kinda bothered me for awhile, but that would explain his nervousness and acting funny last few days.
Would I want him to step out and admit - yes, this is my 20th anniversary, I am taking my wife out for romantic getaway weekend and got her a nice present too - nope, I don't want to know that. When it was my birthday 6 weeks ago, I did let my STBXH to take me out for nice dinner, accepted his present and invited him over to stay overnight and yes, we had sex too. So I guess, I am no better then my lover...but I will make him a scene anyway:)
Love you, sisters, hugs to all:)
Wow...a word was said here that is really making me think now.
don't think it is possible to ever be bored with him i don't see him enough or touch him enough to ever feel like its been too much kwim? our contact is limited physically so i am always wanting more...it has been a yr since we reconnected..
he could never bore me.