Getting started

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Getting started
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 4:12pm

Once you meet someone who you believe might be a potential AP or FWB, how do you get enough rapport going to get to the next step, how would I know what the signs are of him being interested in a similar situtaion?

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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 6:52pm

My honest advice, just don't! First, file for your divorce and get things straightened out there. Sounds odd, but I sure wish I'd have filed for my divorce before OM came into my life, so no one could say my failing M is all his fault. Please, please, please, avoid the affair if you can. Once you go there, you can't EVER go back. EVER! I never dreamed that would matter, that I could stop any time, that it was no big deal.... Believe me, it's a big deal.

However, if this relationship is normal friendship and ends up dragging you down the affair path, that is where it will lead you if you choose to follow. I don't think there is anything you can do to make it happen

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Registered: 05-05-2009
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 7:34am

Hello,


I thought things were getting started...didnt he touch your butt during a hug??...doesnt he keep you on the phone above and beyond any lawyer/client job description??


I know that I said that should not try and start an affair with your lawyer.....I still agree with that but I want you to tell him how you feel....I really want you to because I am dying to know what his answer is.......Please post it. I really want to know if he is willing to put his career on the line for you.

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 12:24pm

.. We are grown mature adult in this board.

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 12:44pm

My A just happened,i didnt go looking to be in one.We worked together ,went on seminars etc. and became friends.Things progressed, we started talking personal stuff and one thing led to another and we were in A before we knew.

If you want to start one, just ask for going out on coffee and if he agrees,work out on your charm ;)

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 7:06am

I wasn't referring to my situation, I was asking out of curiosity how things got started in the affairs of the people on this board.


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Registered: 05-14-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:09am

My deepest

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 05-05-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:20am

SOrry about your mother BUT you have

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:47pm

"he suggested that once this is completed we need to get together for dinner one evening,"

Well, there's your answer. Ball's in your court. Lob it back.
Good luck.

Sorry about your Mom. I lost mine five years ago and there's not a day that I don't think/miss her. She was so wise and died with such grace and dignity.