Getting through the next two weeks...

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Registered: 12-17-2003
Getting through the next two weeks...
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 6:34pm
Thanks for the responses to my "What Am I Thinking?" post...kind of a rushed introduction to the group.

Some more information about OM (Other Man?)...he's 50, I'll be 33 in January. I've never been really attracted to older (or other, for that matter) men, so this is all really new. I got to see him again this morning (first time dead cold sober, too).

He has a 3-year old daughter, and he has equal time with her (every other night, weekend, etc.), so he's a really involved and great daddy. He's completely whooped by this little girl, but it's nice to see that he really cares.

Anyway, my job is very holiday-intense, so I don't know if I'll get to see him until after New Year's...guess we'll have to see. Bad timing on starting this before the holidays.

I'm still not freaking out, except for the shortness of breath when I think of him or approach his doorstep!

I don't plan on nor do I wish for this to lead to anything other than what it is. My husband is a wonderful guy, and I don't know why I've had this sudden turn of events. I love my husband and can't imagine life without him. OM has been and is very understanding. We acknowledged the attraction for the past three years, and have discussed how we wished this was just about sex. I asked him if he was "OK" with this, and his response was "I have to be, I don't really have a choice".

I feel like I can say and do almost anything around him. It's been strange openly discussing the fact that we're having an affair...a really different side of me.

Anyway, I ramble. Thanks again for the support...I've learned a lot from what I've read so far. More than anything, glad to see that I'm not in this alone.