Gift giving!!

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Gift giving!!
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Sun, 11-30-2008 - 8:33am

do you exchange gifts around the holidays with your AP? just curious. last year, my A with AP was just starting..unexpectedly i gave him a bday and christmas gift around the holidays, from then on we gave each other things for the following holidays and just because...this year I am giving him a BDAY gift and a christmas gift from both my DS and I, it's more expensive than last years (of course).

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 02-22-2008
In reply to: tygerzize
Sun, 11-30-2008 - 12:53pm

I gave my AP two books (sequels to a book that's part of our history). He works abroad, so I'm not sure if he took the books home with him or not. But either way it would be easy explainable as they already have the first book in their bookshelve at home (we had one copy each). I didn't write anything in them. I didn't think of it before, but his W could actually be reading the books this minute....

I have wondered about what to do about xmas present.... Last time we were together he bought a new suit, some shirts and ties. I have been thinking about buying him a tie-pin... He can keep it in his home abroad where W never visits.


Edwina
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Registered: 11-18-2008
In reply to: tygerzize
Sun, 11-30-2008 - 1:07pm
The first year we were together I gave him a really nice leather diary (he writes).
Carrrrrried...away2
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: tygerzize
Sun, 11-30-2008 - 4:49pm

Traditionally AP is a horrible gift-giver -- not just to me but to everyone! He's not really one for tokens and at first it hurt my feelings because I'm big on giving gifts. OK, so I like receiving them too. :)


Anyway, this is our fourth Christmas together. Last year (the first year he gave me a gift)

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Registered: 02-09-2008
In reply to: tygerzize
Sun, 11-30-2008 - 5:49pm

I've been trying to come up with something for AP too. This is our first Christmas together. We'd only met a few times when it was my birthday, he spent the whole day with me. When he saw me at our meeting place, he came up to me singing happy birthday. He didn't buy me a gift, he thought it was too risky. I bought him a coffee mug for his birthday with a single word printed on it. He keeps it at work on his desk, so he can look at it often. To everyone else, it's perfectly innocent, but he says he thinks of me every time he looks at it and it's like a bit of me is there with him. I love the idea of an overnighter somewhere, that we can plan and arrange for early in the new year and with our situations now, that is something we can achieve easily.

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Registered: 02-23-2008
In reply to: tygerzize
Sun, 11-30-2008 - 8:15pm
i am a big gift giver--i put a lot of thought into my gifts and take great pleasure in giving them...for his 50th i gave AP a gift that i know will be something to remind him of
me for a long long time (smart lady i am)...a thoughtful meaningful expensive gift that he can roll in his fingers and keep in his office...last christmas i gave him some gifts and i usually leave him a book and/or Cd when we part....AP subsidizes our Affair and for me that is a gift unto itself...in other words--he isn't a gift giver LOL...which is why a "happy birthday baby i am glad you were born" means the world to me....
this year i am cutting back on christmas and that includes AP ..i honestly don't think i could ever do better then what i have already given him--me.
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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: tygerzize
Mon, 12-01-2008 - 3:43pm
i got AP a nice gift from my son and I but, his bday is this month as well..so he gets a gift from us for that as well....we love him to pieces.....

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 01-27-2008
In reply to: tygerzize
Mon, 12-01-2008 - 5:24pm

Well my ap and I exchange inexpensive small gifts. He has bought me a silver key (told me it was the key to his heart), so cute, he has also given me artefacts from places we have visited together, or favorite places of his. We have exchanged CD's . But lately i cut off a lock of my hair (he asked for something personal of mine to keep) put it in a small silk pouch and folded that and hid it between the arms of a little teddy bear, he has it at work and noone would guess that the pouch was even their let alone my lock of hair.


SS


"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"


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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: tygerzize
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 10:36am

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: tygerzize
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 10:27pm
This will be the first year for my AP and I. His bday is Dec 14th, so with it being so close to xmas, I am getting him just one gift. More than one gift could be too risky. My AP has a real passion for pool, and loved to do it socially. Now that is he M with kids, he has no time. So, I got him a miniature pool table. Its something he can keep at work in his desk where his W will never find it. He can pull it out during slow times and play with it. I know its something he will have for a long time and I like that fact that it will remind him of me. If and when he decides to take it home, I am sure he can tell her that his work colleagues got