You should find out what he is "into" such as hobby or sports related things. Sure jewerly would be nice but too personal and a little tricky of course.... and he may feel guilty wearing it. My MM gave me a necklace and I hid it for awhile. But now its in with rest of my jewery yet I feel too guilty to wear it when H would see it. But I always wear it when I go out of town without H.
I have given MM mostly football stuff..hat, t-shirts etc. These are things he would buy for himself or he has said his employees gave it to him (he is a supervisor). He doesnt hide anything. Well except for the cards/letters i have written him (we use nicknames of course and my addres is coded).. he has a locker at work where he keeps this stuff. He says he just behaves as normal as possible that is what doesnt cause suspiousness with his w. make sense? Hope I helped ~Cheetah~
hi beach in my case l gotton to spend holidays with my mm at my house.so we don't hide anything like giftes. my family and his family very close friends of yours so we don't hide anything.now since W is so sick she has no ideal what going on so l can send sweet loving cards to his house liek did today in mail.l gotton spend alot christmas with him which so great .kimmy
Haven't come up on MM's birthday yet, or any gift giving holidays. But my birthday was last month. He apologized for not getting a card, for obvious reasons, since he wouldn't want me to have to get rid of it right away. But he did give me 'gag' gifts that I was able to say everyone at work chipped in on. He gave me auto emergency care items. We work in a job that has us in our cars all the time, and my car is a piece of $hit that burns oil, antifreeze, and transmission fluid on a regular basis. So he got me all kinds of stuff to keep in my car to check my levels (plus got me each of those fluids). He got me a pen and stationery from my alma mater - which he hates! - as well as some of my favorite candies. Plus he got, for the kids, an Oscar the Grouch trash holder that hooks onto the back of the front passenger seat. The kids love it! They know him from when they've visited me at work and they think he's so great. Good thing, since they're going to be spending a fair amount of time with him once I'm on my own!!!
I think the other poster's advice about something impersonal enough to be able to be chalked up to 'the gang at work' is a good idea. And yet, the fact that you did something at all shows him you care and were thinking of him.
I hope I'm in my own place by the time OM has his birthday, and I'm planning on giving him a key to it for his present.
My OM is into surf-casting. He has tons of equipment and accessories and I wouldn't know what to buy. He's semi-retired having retired from his career job and now works part-time until he can collect social security. He doesn't bother with co-workers and his wife knows it.
I was thinking maybe a nice bottle of Merlot and a box of Godiva Chocolates. He could say he treated himself for his birthday. Think it will work? If he doesn't think it will and can't take it home with him I'll feel terrible that I made the wrong choice.
Obviously this is the first time I had to buy for a lover!! LOL!
Our relationship is still pretty new. We only started getting together toward the end of May. We only see each other every 2-3 weeks. Neither one of us plans on leaving our spouse. I have feelings for him but I know it's a deep caring and lust and I can't allow myself to fall in love with him. Last year when I got a birthday card and lottery tickets from him on my birthday I felt an affair with him was a real possibility. Now it's a dream come true!
You should find out what he is "into" such as hobby or sports related things. Sure jewerly would be nice but too personal and a little tricky of course.... and he may feel guilty wearing it. My MM gave me a necklace and I hid it for awhile. But now its in with rest of my jewery yet I feel too guilty to wear it when H would see it. But I always wear it when I go out of town without H.
I have given MM mostly football stuff..hat, t-shirts etc. These are things he would buy for himself or he has said his employees gave it to him (he is a supervisor). He doesnt hide anything. Well except for the cards/letters i have written him (we use nicknames of course and my addres is coded).. he has a locker at work where he keeps this stuff. He says he just behaves as normal as possible that is what doesnt cause suspiousness with his w. make sense? Hope I helped ~Cheetah~
I think the other poster's advice about something impersonal enough to be able to be chalked up to 'the gang at work' is a good idea. And yet, the fact that you did something at all shows him you care and were thinking of him.
I hope I'm in my own place by the time OM has his birthday, and I'm planning on giving him a key to it for his present.
Lucky
I was thinking maybe a nice bottle of Merlot and a box of Godiva Chocolates. He could say he treated himself for his birthday. Think it will work? If he doesn't think it will and can't take it home with him I'll feel terrible that I made the wrong choice.
Obviously this is the first time I had to buy for a lover!! LOL!
Our relationship is still pretty new. We only started getting together toward the end of May. We only see each other every 2-3 weeks. Neither one of us plans on leaving our spouse. I have feelings for him but I know it's a deep caring and lust and I can't allow myself to fall in love with him. Last year when I got a birthday card and lottery tickets from him on my birthday I felt an affair with him was a real possibility. Now it's a dream come true!