girls feel like a fool so sad mm

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Registered: 04-15-2003
girls feel like a fool so sad mm
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 6:25pm
he really made me believe he love me that way and told me all the time he love me.he rang me up on oct 1991 we were talking he told me love me. when he was here this past jan for holiday he what talking about after l help clean up wine. l ask him if he want me to take care of him and he said yessee that after that clean up.l told always be here for him so stuiped me through he want me to to take care of him. girls he should years ago he only love me like daughter nothing more.but never time he was at my house he and l were in my kitchen he took me in arms very close and my body agasint his and he had his hands all over me and he kiss me .so tell me girls what suppose to think when loves me that way.hugs kimmy
kimmy
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Registered: 09-19-2003
Thu, 11-20-2003 - 8:50pm
Time to get over this complete fantisy and move on. You are driving yourself crazy not to mention everyone here at ivillage. If this old man did indeed say and do these things to you at the age of 16 he should have been arrested if you ask me. He sounds like a dirty old man, who has probley forgotten what he had for dinner last night let alone something that happenes 25 plus years ago. Is it just me? But does anyone else feel this way? She need to realize what she is doing to herself.

Shy

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Registered: 09-19-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 7:47am
Bumping up, anyone else agree?
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Registered: 07-27-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 8:43am
I agree. This is a long-standing crush, not an affair, and it does seem that most of her posts are a way to try and convince herself and others that it is something more than it is. I definitely think it's time for her to move on...

I don't think your post was intentionally mean -- just blatantly honest!!

Charlotte

 

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Registered: 09-19-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 9:16am
Thanks!
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Registered: 09-19-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 3:22pm
Bumping
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Registered: 11-19-2003
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 1:21am
Shy....I am in complete agreement with you on this one. I wish we could sit Kimmy down and do some kind of intervention...because I do believe people can have unhealthy addictions to other people.

KIMMY---like I said before, if YOU are convinced that something happened between the two of you, then it DID. But you spend an awful lot of time defending that to everyone here...you try and convince US that something happened. You seem incapable of seeing other's perspective and then get mad when others try and tell you what they see in this situation. Just because someone doesn't agree with you does NOT mean it is a personal attack. Aren't we all here to talk to others, hear their stories, tell our stories, get their experiences, ask their opinions? Isn't that what this board is all about??? Helping each other through all kinds of things, good and bad? Sometimes it is hard for us to see what is soooooo obvious to others. Speaking for MYSELF, I would not be here posting to you if I didn't care about and was concerned about your situation.

So what other people are trying to tell you is that you are in denial. This man does NOT share your feelings and **IF** he did at one time, he does NOT now. You are NOT the first person here to be hurt by a man, we are simply trying to tell you that it is time to get over it, time to move on. You ask over and over why he would kiss you like that, look at you like that...and on and on. Who knows??? You may NEVER know the answer to that. Sometimes men say things they do not mean, sometimes we misunderstand exactly what it is they are trying to say. Sometimes they say things they DO mean and then later change their mind, yes....even nice, wonderful men like him. Sometimes we find ourselves head over heels with someone we for one reason or another, JUST CAN'T HAVE. Sometimes it's not fair, but that is life. I hate to see you waste any more of your life pining over a man you cannot have. You are sad, that is OK. You have a right to be sad, but be sad and then LET IT GO. IT IS TIME. I agree that some professional counseling may not be a bad idea. Lots of us have been there, it can help. It can also help you to feel better about opening up to other men, to let you know there are some GREAT guys out there.

I think YOU owe it to yourself to seriously think about things that have been said here. I hope you come to the right decision. Peace to you.

LivinLovin