Going to lunch w/OM today - question
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| Tue, 05-04-2004 - 11:31am |
it's his birthday - I told him I'd take him to a nice lunch - he accepted. things have cooled off considerably over the past 6 weeks since my H found out about my friendship (and phone calls) with OM - H doesn't know anything else.
I asked OM yesterday if he was interested in a "long lunch" for his bday and he said "we'll see" - I said if the answer is no then just say so - I won't be mad and he said "I didn't say that, I said we'll see" - I am starting to wonder if HE is feeling guilty or if he thinks it hurts me b/c he knows I am hurting my H by even talking to him.
I don't know - I guess I'll see what happens at lunch - we did share a very nice kiss last Friday and he initiated it - but most times we just go to lunch - talk about mundane things and that's about it. I try not to push him - we've agreed from the beginning that we are FWB only - nothing more, but the "benefit" part has been non-existent lately.
I am thinking of just ditching the whole thing - it's making me crazy.

since you initiated the invitation for lunch for his b-day, it would be kinda mean and nasty to rescind the invite because it's possibly just "lunch". so go, have a good talk, good food and enjoy his company. don't press him for more since he's obviously reluctant. seriously, just go and have a good time. relax and don't read more into it than just lunch. wish him a happy b-day and nice kiss goodbye and leave. he'll be wanting more when you don't throw it in his face.
relax and enjoy!!
life
ps - I made sure I looked extra cute today! ;-)
have fun.
life
but you're right - not today!
Thanks!
life
*sigh* I only wish there was a little hint that he still wants me even if he thinks he can't have me...
T's Secret
but seriously, aren't you getting the message right now? MM didn't take your bait and want more than lunch, and believe me, men are not that complicated. if he wanted to continue the A, he would have jumped at your other invitation.
go live your life, ts. MM wants to be friends, and nothing more than friends. sorry honey but he's making it loud and clear. you're just not hearing him.
take care,
life
I wish I could just ask him - but he won't talk to me about it.
Maybe you are right - thanks for the slap in the face, I needed it.
MM wants to eat lunch with you or GF, whichever, doesn't matter to him, as long as one of you shows up at lunchtime. and poor baby, suppose you have other plans, like shopping or having lunch with another friend, MM has to eat by himself. that's pretty selfish and silly don't you think?
granted, i don't really know your story, but i can say that you're getting the short end of the "attention" stick from MM and you keep going back for more. do you like this type of behavior? would you put up with this behavior if it came from your best girlfriend? i don't think so.
and there's your answer to the dilemma of whether MM wants to continue the R. it's your call, not his. he's just playing along with you while you figure out that MM's out for himself only.
sorry if i upset you, but i've seen it a million times here and elsewhere. so i just say it, albeit sarcastically, but i still say it every time.
take care of yourself, ts. god knows, MM won't.
life
Thanks again.