Going NC

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Going NC
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Wed, 06-02-2010 - 4:11pm

First of all, I want to apologize to you all for not being terribly supportive the last few days.

anotherseyes

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In reply to: anotherseyes
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 4:26pm

Hugs to you anothers eyes! I know how hard this is for you because I go through those feelings all the time. I think you made a great step in the right direction by having NC but if you want it for good you can't have him contact you at all. A big part of me wants to do NC but I'm not ready yet.


 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 06-01-2010
In reply to: anotherseyes
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 5:20pm

Hi another,


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Registered: 04-27-2010
In reply to: anotherseyes
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 9:22pm

((HUGS)) anothers. Hang in there, girl...you've got a lot swirling around in your head. Deep breath...big decisions looming and it sounds like stepping away from the a is in your best interest right now.


I SO understand your feeling of giving up AP being harder than giving up your M at this point. You sort of have to keep in mind that you can't **really** compare the two...a's are in large part about escape...M is the day-to-day nitty gritty, but I know you know that ;)


I've also seen MANY times where when one AP separates/divorces...it creates an imbalance in how things started...I think you may have seen AP back WAY off or end it himself. I'm certain he does care for you a great deal, but make no mistake, he knows, too, that he can't be there for you like you need/want him to be through that...I think it's even harder for a man to be in a position of not being able to "fix" somehting...and he can't fix this.


Hoping you're in a better place soon...

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Registered: 05-03-2010
In reply to: anotherseyes
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 9:32pm

Thank you everyone!


I really think AP felt that my separating would be a good thing for us, that it would be easier for us to communicate with each other and we'd have one less person to try to hide things from.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 03-26-2010
In reply to: anotherseyes
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 10:25pm

I like what Kimber said about the big decisions looming.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
In reply to: anotherseyes
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 10:33pm

If you need help with NC, the EAS board is a great place for support. May want to give it a look, if you are uncomfortable posting, just read. Scroll down to the healing library or look at tips for NC. A wealth of info if you are interested.

Luvin

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Registered: 05-03-2010
In reply to: anotherseyes
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 11:44pm

Still not sure this is the right thing to do.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 03-08-2010
In reply to: anotherseyes
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 12:59am
Hi Another...I'm sorry you are dealing with so many difficult things right now.
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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: anotherseyes
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 6:30am
Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry you're going through all this.

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