Good time for a "roll call"

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Good time for a "roll call"
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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 8:32am

For one thing, we've lost some posters and gained some posters lately. It's a good time to remind everyone of our stories.

And secondly, if we're going to have a few days of "read only", a roll call thread will be a good one to read! :-)

It would be especially nice if some lurkers jump in here with us and join our group.

I'm Lexi, and I'm the CL, or community leader, of MAS. I'm a MW involved with a single guy and we're coming up on our 12th anniversary soon. I'm in a very calm, smooth sort of A where there is little drama, lots of talking and friendship, and yeah, sex. This is not my first A, I have had 2 others previously. My first one was when I'd been married for 15 years, and it was a pretty intense love affair with a single guy. I broke that one off after about 1½ years because I honestly felt like I was holding him back from finding someone of his own. My second one was a "rebound" A to distract myself from ending the first, and he was single, and a total player/sociopath. That one was sort of off and on for 1½ years before I let it dwindle away and die. He actually kept coming back after that and I just said no way - in a gentle way, because you don't want to anger a sociopath. Sometimes I recognize people's APs here as sociopaths but it's so hard to convince anyone that that is the case - until it's too late and their lives are ruined. My present A is sort of FWB but we certainly have feelings for each other. I have many complicated reasons I stay with my OM now when I left my first single other guy because I felt I was "holding him back". In this case I would feel like I was abandoning my OM if I broke it off - it's just a different situation.

So jump in with your story - looking forward to reading it!

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Registered: 09-05-2010
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 3:27pm

......I am a mw having an A with my dh's best friend....

I think you should rather say that your ap is your dh's acquaintence & not best friend . Friends dont sleep witth friend's wife .

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 3:58pm

I'm a MW involved with a MM.

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 5:45pm

MW involved with.. well mine is kinda very confusing lately.

Started a PA with a MM who is an old college friend (that pesky facebook again! LOL) He freaked out and backed away. For that past 9 months our A has been mostly an EA.

Being physical with him woke up the part of me that was completely dead in my M. My H and I are just roommates for the past few years. So I went on AshleyMadison and met another guy. That one didnt work out but I met another guy. He's ok but also in love with his wife and is having a hard time dealing with our A.

In the meantime, EA is back. I think he's finally realized that what we have is very strong and wants to move to a PA again. I've also realized that I'm falling in love with him. This is gonna get interesting! LOL

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 6:09pm
its crazy how FB has connected so many people from the past!!! That's how i got in contact w/ my AP#2.... crazy
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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 7:23pm

Well, I was a MW (almost 25 years) but AP, who was a long time acquaintance, made a pass at me....totally woke up that "part" of me, and I took him up on it. It was an EA for about a month or so, then we moved into a PA. Shortly after that, I had a d-day with my H and he left me. I suppose I could have grovelled and begged for him to forgive me, but I had fallen head over heels in love with AP and just wasn't prepared to do that.



AP and I just had our 3rd anniversary...things had been going very well for a long time however, last week the rollercoaster took a long slow downturn. I'm not very happy with him right now, although I'm sure I'll get over it...I usually do.



He's a difficult man...does not like talking, whereas I do. It's a bit of a bone of contention

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 9:50pm

Hi Lexi.. good idea.. I was wondering what will happen during the no-post time.. yikes!.. with my luck, my AP will decide to call it off just then.. :-)



MM here in an A w/ a MW.. our third year now.. we've started quite intensely and luckily figured out how to keep it as good friends w/ some TLC thrown in when we get a chance..



Hmm.. where's is Cali? :-)..



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Registered: 09-24-2010
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 10:50pm
Hi I'm flylady49, a MW involved with a MM. It's a FWB deal.
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Registered: 09-27-2010
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 11:34pm

Hello, I'm a lurker, decided to jump in. I've never been someone to post on boards, but here goes.



I've been happily divorced now for 9 years. Have had many MM in my life, and enjoyed the thrill of the chase. Just recently began a new PA with

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Registered: 08-11-2009
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 11:35pm

Hello,

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Tue, 09-28-2010 - 7:55am

Welcome to MAS Wondering!

Hmmmm... it seems like after your divorce, you weren't ready for a commitment, and may have subconsciously been seeing married men because that's the only type of commitment you could handle? And maybe now you are healed enough to really be able to fall in love again. It's unfortunate that it's a MM that you're falling for. There are a few single women here who are too emotionally involved with their MM to leave, and it's a hard road.

Glad you decided to jump in and post! Looking forward to hearing more. :-)

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