Good time for a "roll call"
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| Mon, 09-27-2010 - 8:32am |
For one thing, we've lost some posters and gained some posters lately. It's a good time to remind everyone of our stories.
And secondly, if we're going to have a few days of "read only", a roll call thread will be a good one to read! :-)
It would be especially nice if some lurkers jump in here with us and join our group.
I'm Lexi, and I'm the CL, or community leader, of MAS. I'm a MW involved with a single guy and we're coming up on our 12th anniversary soon. I'm in a very calm, smooth sort of A where there is little drama, lots of talking and friendship, and yeah, sex. This is not my first A, I have had 2 others previously. My first one was when I'd been married for 15 years, and it was a pretty intense love affair with a single guy. I broke that one off after about 1½ years because I honestly felt like I was holding him back from finding someone of his own. My second one was a "rebound" A to distract myself from ending the first, and he was single, and a total player/sociopath. That one was sort of off and on for 1½ years before I let it dwindle away and die. He actually kept coming back after that and I just said no way - in a gentle way, because you don't want to anger a sociopath. Sometimes I recognize people's APs here as sociopaths but it's so hard to convince anyone that that is the case - until it's too late and their lives are ruined. My present A is sort of FWB but we certainly have feelings for each other. I have many complicated reasons I stay with my OM now when I left my first single other guy because I felt I was "holding him back". In this case I would feel like I was abandoning my OM if I broke it off - it's just a different situation.
So jump in with your story - looking forward to reading it!

You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull

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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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I am a MW for 17 years.
MW....M nearly 20 yrs, and for the most part M was good. There was a long period of time where I thanked my lucky stars daily for being M to my best friend. Life stressors in the past 4 yrs or so have taken a toll. Add on top that I have grown/changed and H and I just seem to be in very different places. He is mostly content w/ life as is...I, on the other hand, became restless.
Enter AP. He's M almost the same amount of time. We hit it off immediately, became GREAT friends, admitted to each other an attraction within a month...and away we went. Had sex one time (the only time...) about three
So, thank you so much for this board and all who participate in sharing and show their much needed care and support :-)
I'm a MW in a A for the past 16 mths with a MM.
Hello everyone,
I'm a MW (married for way too long)in a A with a MM (kids for both of us) for awhile? lol....I don't know? We met online fall of 09 and it went PA Spring of 10. I say that because I had a previous AP when I met my current AP in 09. So, we talked on and off awhile but I wouldn't count it as a EA or PA until Spring of 10.
Soooo...I guess you would say I'm a AshleyMadison girl, but I used another site for my last two A's..All in all I have had 4 A's. I hate to say that....I'm really not that type of person if anyone were to meet me in real life. I'm one of those replace a AP with another AP types...yeah, BTW that's not good advise don't do it. And this is my absolute last A! I think I have come to the conclusion that I'm way too strong willed, over the top and mouthy to make a proper mistress.lol And well, the wife thing is not working out too well either. I need about 3 months on a island by myself.lol
Where am I at now? Well, we have been PA for about 6 months and I have come to the conclusion that's about the shelf life for these crazy non-relationships that are real to only us. Okay so I think the elephant in the room that neither of us will talk about is that emotions are getting involved.
I lost it on him last week, partly because he is "well off" and loves to talk about his "things" and how much money is made between him and his wife and the trips he goes on...and blah blah blah...So I ask you kind board...WTH! Why does he need me?...he also has a sex life with his wife...so again why am I the chosen one? (oohh yeah! I'm the side dish to his otherwise perfect life!!) And why do I want to hear about it? I don't!! Good for him. Yay!!! leave me out of it. I don't need to know somethings...one of them is anything about his life with his wife. When we are on "us" time, I want it to be about us. Okay! see where I'm a crappy mistress comes in.lol
So surprisingly when I go off the deep end on him, he apologizes, says he sorry didn't mean to hurt me, doesn't look down on me, wants me to be happy, cares about whats going on in my life, he was up half the night worried...So the question is does he mean it? Or is he saying the necessary things to keep me on the hook? Is he getting emotional? I guess if I'm getting upset then yes I'm getting emotional, but he didn't flat out end it when I got mad...(I had that happen with a xap) so I think we are moving past just a FWB No Strings type agreement. Do I want that? IDK? I do like him, he likes me...We are full of...Like! HA! Okay I purged happy reading.
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