Good time for a "roll call"
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| Mon, 09-27-2010 - 8:32am |
For one thing, we've lost some posters and gained some posters lately. It's a good time to remind everyone of our stories.
And secondly, if we're going to have a few days of "read only", a roll call thread will be a good one to read! :-)
It would be especially nice if some lurkers jump in here with us and join our group.
I'm Lexi, and I'm the CL, or community leader, of MAS. I'm a MW involved with a single guy and we're coming up on our 12th anniversary soon. I'm in a very calm, smooth sort of A where there is little drama, lots of talking and friendship, and yeah, sex. This is not my first A, I have had 2 others previously. My first one was when I'd been married for 15 years, and it was a pretty intense love affair with a single guy. I broke that one off after about 1½ years because I honestly felt like I was holding him back from finding someone of his own. My second one was a "rebound" A to distract myself from ending the first, and he was single, and a total player/sociopath. That one was sort of off and on for 1½ years before I let it dwindle away and die. He actually kept coming back after that and I just said no way - in a gentle way, because you don't want to anger a sociopath. Sometimes I recognize people's APs here as sociopaths but it's so hard to convince anyone that that is the case - until it's too late and their lives are ruined. My present A is sort of FWB but we certainly have feelings for each other. I have many complicated reasons I stay with my OM now when I left my first single other guy because I felt I was "holding him back". In this case I would feel like I was abandoning my OM if I broke it off - it's just a different situation.
So jump in with your story - looking forward to reading it!

You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull

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Welcome to MAS disclub!
Your situation is a tad different, starting the way it started LOL. As much as most here say they HATE the roller coaster ride, it often is part of the addiction. Especially those of us who grew up in dysfunctional families with tons of drama, we apparently think life is boring without all those ups and downs. We think we want peace and stability, but we actually get bored with it. I used to be that way. I think I'm finally free of that sort of addiction now (and my A is very stable and smooth, no roller coaster LOL). Looking forward to updates from you!
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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I am a MW for 20 years AP is MM for 26 years. We been in an A for 10 years. It is a long distance A. We enjoy each other's company and have great sex, since we do not see each other but a couple of times a year.
Actually he tells me that he likes our arrangement, and that if I was living in the same city as his he would have never pursued the A. He calls me about once a month, and if he does not I email him. He is very protective of his home life, but I have reassured him many times that I am not interested in harming his life anymore than I want him to harm mine. We are both content in our marriages and are having this A to spice things up. I really like him although I cannot say that I love him as I feel he is not allowing me to love him. That is best though, because what good can come from loving 2 men?
I'm a MW involved with a MM.
Lexione, you are speaking the truth!!! :)
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I have been a lurker for a while...figure I need to talk or I will go nuts!
Hi Lexi... thought I would jump in before the barn door shut on the postings.
MW (23 years, 2 kids) involved with MM (2nd M of 17 years, 2 adult kids from 1st marriage).
MW here involved for a little over 4 years with a MM. We have been friends for over 25 years before discovering we have both been attracted and intrigued by the other for quite some time. Neither of us have any intention of leaving our marriages. We are extremely discreet and careful. We communicate often through email and occasionally phone and meet on average once a month for sex, which is phenomenal.
I never thought I'd fall in love with him because even though I was curious, he really isn't my type. But since I've come to see the softer and insecure side of him, I've grown to love him. While he has never said he loves me and remains emotionally detached, I think he does love me. He just won't admit it to me because he needs to be the strong one and keep us from getting carried away.
We've had our ups and downs like in all relationships. He's pulled away and I've gone squirrely a number of times but we've always managed to talk things through. I've tried to break it off a few times and he always says he'll be waiting for me whenever I want him back. And I always do.
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