Goodbye

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-17-2011
Goodbye
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Tue, 04-17-2012 - 10:00pm

Hi:

I wanted to drop by and tell everyone goodbye. I won't be visiting this board anymore.

I was, until an hour ago, in a A with a MM who promised me the world. Ha! Funny how that is and I'm still here with no world in my hands.

Until late we started having problems in our relationship. I think he has found someone else or really just wanted this to end. He stopped emailing me, calling me, and was too freaked out to see me any more. Yet, he still wanted to be "friends" and be in my life when it was appropriate or convenient to him. I told him I don't do friends and that I'm not friends with any of my ex A's, I've also decided not to have another A ever again. Not judging here, but to be quite honest I don't see where it is worth the heart break anymore.

I gave him a chance to make amends and to stay in my life. I gave him until 6pm tonight to make that choice and he chose not to. So I chose to delete my email addresses, block him on my phone via the phone company and I'm done with him. It seems so cold, but not as cold as he has treated me in the last month.

So I am now posting on EAS.

Here is what I posted:

I did it! Like I told everyone I would in my post last night. Today is Day 0 in my quest for NC with my now ex-AP.

We spoke on the phone today and he kept stalling but yet he wouldn't tell me what I wanted to hear. So I told him he had until 6pm to change my mind and he didn't. Maybe he thinks he's calling my bluff, but when he tried to email me, he will find that the email addresses he used to use are deleted. When he tries to call me, he will get a nice message from the phone company letting him know that his calls are no longer wanted. I have blocked him from my life.

I can't keep him from emailing me at my work address, too many questions would be asked. But do you know what? I have this nifty button on my computer called DELETE and if I have to use it I will.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not at all happy about this. But it comes down to this. My heart has been broken way too many times to keep going back and forth. I honestly gave him a chance and he failed. I also told him that if I was as important to him as he claims, he would make room for me in his life. That is the number one thing that rang true for me in my readings from the last few days. If I am so important to him and he so loves me, then why doesn't he make room for me in his life? Because I'm not that important.

So, one day at a time. Tomorrow will be NC Day 1. I'm looking forward to it and the ones that will follow. I'll go back to reading, instead of watching my phone at night. I'll go back to my crafts that I loved to do, but never had time for after he came into my life. Maybe I'll also write that books I've always wanted to do. Now that I have more time.

I'll keep posting.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2004
In reply to: simplysoft40
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 7:53am
Simplysoft. Good for you for taking back your heart. I know there will be hard times ahead for you but stay the course and let your heart heal. Write that book, do those crafts. Make yourself happy and never again depend on a man for that. We have to find it in ourselves. Kudos to you for being strong enough to say no more. Sorry to see you leave the board but happy for your reason. All the best. LLL
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Registered: 03-30-2010
In reply to: simplysoft40
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 9:05am

Hi Simply,

I'm so happy for you and wish

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 09-12-2005
In reply to: simplysoft40
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 11:35am

I admire your strenght ! My AP is treating me very well, but it's just not enough, so I'm building up the strengh to end it with him.

All the best to you in post-A journey !

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-10-2010
In reply to: simplysoft40
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 2:28pm
Great post , Simplysoft
I loved what you wrote here: "But it comes down to this. My heart has been broken way too many times to keep going back and forth. I honestly gave him a chance and he failed. I also told him that if I was as important to him as he claims, he would make room for me in his life. That is the number one thing that rang true for me in my readings from the last few days. If I am so important to him and he so loves me, then why doesn't he make room for me in his life? Because I'm not that important."

In fact I copied and pasted that , just so I can read it over and over again to remind myself of why I will never let XAP back into my life again in that way

Thank you

And I wish you all the best

xx
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2012
In reply to: simplysoft40
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 8:18pm
Good for you for taking a stand. Stay strong and true to yourself.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-08-2011
In reply to: simplysoft40
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 10:10pm

GOOD. FOR. YOU.

You sound like me...when I'm done - I AM DONE. My exAP went MIA last May, and to this day, I

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2010
In reply to: simplysoft40
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 9:55pm

I think we are in almost the exact same spot right now, SS!