I think you got the answer that you needed indeed. That answer was - you don't need that man in your life. You still have feelings for your husband, and without the distraction of affair, sounds like you marriage can be a pretty solid one.
The A is over. You have gone through the withdrawls and now you are in a place that you can go home to your DH and enjoy your life. I realize you have the feelings for AP and im sure you always will care for him, but you have to put those feelings into perspective. They were obviously destrictive to your M and now AP is out of the immediate picture, things in your life are going well. Keep it that way IMO.
Getting over someone you cared for so deeply is never easy, but your A served a purpose and now you dont need it any more. Look after yourself and family now. Let AP be and continue to grow with the people that love and depend on you full time. Dont let guilt for APs medical condition ruin your chance to be a solid family again as it seems that you are doing so well at home now. Ap is being looked after by his family and is OK without you.
I think you got the answer that you needed indeed. That answer was - you don't need that man in your life. You still have feelings for your husband, and without the distraction of affair, sounds like you marriage can be a pretty solid one.
Good luck with everything!
Love and hugs,
GbG
GBG said it perfectly.
The A is over. You have gone through the withdrawls and now you are in a place that you can go home to your DH and enjoy your life. I realize you have the feelings for AP and im sure you always will care for him, but you have to put those feelings into perspective. They were obviously destrictive to your M and now AP is out of the immediate picture, things in your life are going well. Keep it that way IMO.
Getting over someone you cared for so deeply is never easy, but your A served a purpose and now you dont need it any more. Look after yourself and family now. Let AP be and continue to grow with the people that love and depend on you full time. Dont let guilt for APs medical condition ruin your chance to be a solid family again as it seems that you are doing so well at home now. Ap is being looked after by his family and is OK without you.
SB
thank you both.