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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 3:30am
I was just curious about something. My H and I are good friends with my MM/OM and his W. We go over to their place all the time. He is always whispering I love you and grabbing me and stuff with his W around the corner. I was just curious if anyone else has this happen. Like tonight for instance the W was in the house and he walked us to our car and kissed me like 5 times. My H says he acts like he wants to get caught. What do ya'll think.
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Registered: 05-04-2004
In reply to: shorty1522
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 5:34am
Im confused... Your H knows about your affair? You kiss and share moments in fromt of him? Isn't that uncomfortable?
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Registered: 05-13-2004
In reply to: shorty1522
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 6:43am
Yes my H knows of my other relationship, as weird as it might sound. I am not uncomfortable with H knowing, in fact I prefer him to know. In this particular situation this works the best for us.
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In reply to: shorty1522
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 8:03am
shorty

That is unusal to say the least! I am guessing H has other relatinships as well? I know MINE would!

The answer is if we were in social situations together (there has only been one or two) then NO. MM is VERY discreet, almost to a fault. He sometimes acts like I might as well be the door when other people are around. It would scare me if he were touchy feely around his W. If his W won't tolerate it maybe he IS acting like he wants to get caught. That could be good and bad depending on how you look at it. Does he want it to end his M or end your EMA? I don't know, I dont' get it at all

dd

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Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: shorty1522
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 5:22pm
My so/om is in a quasi-open relationship. His g/f sees other people, and while she agrees in theory it should goes both ways, the reality is, she can't handle it. So, out of deference to her feelings and to the fact that I was married when we started, he hasn't told her about us.

As far as how OM is acting, yes, my SO does the same thing sometimes. He gooses me all the time at work, for instance (which I love!). And his g/f invited me and then-h to a labor day cookout they were having last year. I told him I didn't think that would be a good idea, because I don't have a poker face. His response was, yeah, well, I think when we both disappear and then they hear you yelling, "Oh God", that might be the real tip off!! I said surely you wouldn't expect us to DO anything right next to them, do you, and he said, sure, why not??? So maybe that's just a thrill for them, the thrill of 'getting away' with something. And then, maybe it's a cry for help in their relationship or a way to hurt the other person. Who knows??

Lucky

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Registered: 04-01-2004
In reply to: shorty1522
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 6:23pm
I am confused ... does your H know about you EMA ??

Your MM/OM may want to get caught or he's just terrible at hiding how he feels about you

or at least terrible at being discreet -

too close for comfort for me - even if I was friends with MM and his W I would never ever

allow any sort of contact with MM while in their home or him with me in my home -- I mean

it's bad enough what we are doing let alone doing things like that right under her nose and in her own home ---

my opinion anyway -

Kikki