The great disappearing act....
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The great disappearing act....
| Mon, 12-29-2008 - 6:33pm |
Anyone else's AP done the great disappearing act the last couple of weeks? Yes I know it's the holidays etc etc but how difficult is it to send a quick hello text?

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Not sure if your AP has replied by now but yes, this happened to me...a few times. I stopped reaching out as I felt so silly and so unclear on the situation. We are in such a tough spot as we must sit back and 'be good'...but should we? I am still unclear on this...
I truly hope your holiday was warm and fuzzy regardless ( :
Olive
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
Please keep in mind that when we think they have disappeared it could also be that the texts have disappeared.
My AP disappeared, yes. It was expected, I guess. He is out of the state with his girlfriend and his family and logically I didn't really expect to hear from him. But if I'm honest, I am disappointed I haven't heard anything from him.
This is the first time in 3 months (since this A started) we've had NC at all. We usually talk/text/IM every single day. So I know I am in some state of withdrawals. And that just makes me crazy wondering if he's thinking about me, etc. And I am already planning how to sound cool when he contacts me when he gets back. So I don't sound all needy and stuff.
I'm not alone here, right??
Edited 1/2/2009 2:00 am ET by sdbatgirl
Yes, we have this "disappearing act" but by this point I am used to it. We speak less frequently now than we did a few years back. Then during times of AP's business trips (he travels alot for his job) I may not hear from him for a week or two and then during his time home with family like now with the holidays I do not hear from him. This used to drive me crazy, it no longer does. I'm used to it. I'm also getting tired of being the one texting or IMing him asking him where he's been. Maybe its time for me to pull a disappearing act.
I think some men have a hard time "multitasking". He compartmentalizes so well that our "thang" can be put away for a while and I don't think it bothers him. It used to make me feel insecure but now i'm used to it and he always comes around. (We have been FWB for quite some time now). I have to respect his time home with his family and his time with work like I expect him to do for me. It is just the way it is.
OMG I am so mad he is doing the same thing to me...not responding to my texts.
I am ready to scream!! We were together on Tuesday..had amazing sex. I wanted to get together today (DH out of town visiting family)
He knew DH was out of town obviously AP didn't want me today, but couldn't he be polite and respond? I am MW, AP is SM.
Maybe he found someone else to cuddle up with?
Men can be so detached, or like other posters have stated they are good at compartametalizing (sp?)
The weird thing is for me this is just a PA not EA but it still makes me feel like such a fool, that he will not respond.
Worst--I finally called him but he said he could not talk at that moment...I hung up then my stomach felt in knots, I felt so embarrased.
I will not call him.!!..I will not call him!! I have to keep repeating to myself.
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