The great disappearing act....
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The great disappearing act....
| Mon, 12-29-2008 - 6:33pm |
Anyone else's AP done the great disappearing act the last couple of weeks? Yes I know it's the holidays etc etc but how difficult is it to send a quick hello text?

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In a weird way, reading these responses makes me feel a bit better. Not that I want any of you to feel this awful way I feel, but it was starting to make me feel like I was going crazy.
I am having the same thoughts: Is he thinking about me? Did he reconcile with the girlfriend on vacay and doesn't know how to tell me? Did he find someone else to have an A with? He misses the excitement of the newness with me and found someone else he feels that with??
Something is amiss in A-town.......
Edited 1/2/2009 1:58 am ET by sdbatgirl
You hit the nail on the head when you said you felt like a fool. That's how I feel too.
Well girl make mine a double cause after this past week I need it! LOL...Seriously, I hate hate HATE games...but I need to make myself more unavailable too for my own peace of mind. I would think that he no longer wants to be in the A...but then I get a text or IM that says how busy he is and asks me how I am...confusing to say the least....I guess its easy to put someone in a compartment and pull them out when convenient and I'm the fool that is always here for that, but it never works the other way around. These are things that I am going to discuss with him....If the physical part isn't going to happen anymore I'm really okay with that, but don't screw up the friendship part..put more effort into it...I would expect that from anyone else in my life that is special to me, why should it be any different from someone you are in an A with?
Thanks for letting me vent here, glad to know that I"m not alone.
If the behavior has changed dramatically with your AP you need to ask him what is up....just doing it tactfully so that you don't look like you're getting Glenn Close on him....
So he texts me at midnight last night,.."Happy New Year, Sorry I could not talk when you called earlier" Oh so it was not until midnight that he got the chance to text me. I responded him that "I am sure you were very busy that is why you took so long to reply to my texts"
So today at 4pm he calls me (which he never does), and sounds all perky, asking me what is going on, why are were my messages so negative? ( I can just see his smiling face as he asked that). It almost sounded like he was trying to sound way too happy sort of to create a diversion from the real issue, like my feelings were not legitimate..the upset feelings.
"What about the text msgs you did not answer?" "Oh I was so busy" he said!
I started to tell him something then he said "oh I gotta go someone is here." ok bye.
He is foolish if he thinks he is off the hook...he is guilty.
It's the same for me.
Hey there -- replying to this paragraph.
'You hit the nail on the head when you said you felt like a fool. That's how I feel too.
joining the club....nothing makes me so upset as NC. My AP usually calls on his way from work, well I have not heard from him much, and it is the same every week, and when we finally meet at work on the weekend, he is all over me. Doing cost-benefits analysis, I am getting nothing of this relationship...I am not really getting anything and NC part is killing me. He bluntly does not reply to my generic e-mails. I hate it more than anything else.....I know he told me e-mails are not safe, but he has asked me to e-mail him a file and i did. There was nothing like " received, thank you, will blahblahblah" God, i am soooooooo close to ending it.....
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