The great disappearing act....

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Registered: 12-11-2008
The great disappearing act....
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Mon, 12-29-2008 - 6:33pm
Anyone else's AP done the great disappearing act the last couple of weeks? Yes I know it's the holidays etc etc but how difficult is it to send a quick hello text?
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Registered: 09-29-2008
Sat, 01-03-2009 - 10:14pm

What do they say? MEN are from Mars women are from VENUS. I totally agree. We get so upset because they do not respond to our emails or texts, yet they think nothing of it.

We feel ignored and unimportant but when they have us in their arms we feel like the most important person in their lives..at least I do. AP makes me feel special when we are together but his lack of replies to my texts is a total put down!

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 6:00am
My AP doesnt do the disappearing act.his W i guess has a feeling that something is fishy and so is keeping him very busy with the house.She has to get the feeling.he is spending so much time with me ,which W wouldnt suspect? He has had to cancel some meetings but he always makes it sure to let me know.doesnt go MIA w/o any reason.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 4:11pm
OK Ladies...There are far too many of us getting similar treatment...I think it's time we all pull together and give them a taste of their own medicine...Whose in it with me..I am going to do the disappearing act for a WHOLE week..I refuse to contact him, answer his messages or anything like that...They have to KNOW what we go through!!
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Registered: 04-17-2006
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 8:25pm
Mum, I'll give you a week and raise you one....yeah that's right. I'm disappearing for two weeks.....I have enough on my calendar to keep ME busy...and who knows if I'll even hear from him this week. Like I said before I hate games but this isn't about playing games, this is about my own sanity. When I finally do speak to him I am going to let him know that he doen't have to contact me every day...and I know that he's busy...but he needs to make more of an effort to keep in touch no matter WHAT is going on in his life. It only takes a minute to send an email or a text. And you can do that from no matter where in the world you are. Just because this isn't an above the board relationship doesn't mean that I'm not entitled to respect.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 1:42pm
I completely agree..it takes seconds to send a message..how can they be too busy for that?
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Registered: 04-17-2006
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 10:11pm
LOL..I got a message too yesterday. I guess he was waiting to get back to work before contacting me. I too did not answer. I dont even know what to say at this point. I'm not crying or anxious over it either, I actually feel good. I am not saying that I will never speak to him, but I'm taking a "time out"...and I dont feel guilty about it becuase he has taken "many". Maybe it was time for me to start having more of my own life and being too busy too...
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Registered: 09-29-2008
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 12:20am
Wow you gals (scu72 & mumofkid) are way stronger than I am. I do not think I could hold off on answering his texts. I usually answer him on the spot.
By the way I questioned him on not answering my texts and he said he was not receiving them.
huh? "No I am not" he said " as a matter of fact I just got one you sent on Saturday"
I was speechless. That is weird! He has on other occasions responded promptly.
He is either lying or technology is really failing around here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2006
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 9:28am

I'm strong only because I've been doing this for so long.....and I'm tired of the waiting game.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2006
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 11:08pm
Did everyone hear back from their man now that the holidays are over? As for me i'm still invisible...;)
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Registered: 12-11-2008
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 6:29pm

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Edited 6/20/2009 1:01 am ET by the_other_me