The great disappearing act....

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2008
The great disappearing act....
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Mon, 12-29-2008 - 6:33pm
Anyone else's AP done the great disappearing act the last couple of weeks? Yes I know it's the holidays etc etc but how difficult is it to send a quick hello text?

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Registered: 04-17-2006
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 8:47pm

Oh No, I did hear from him on Monday morning. He IM'd me as soon as he got back to the office after holidays. I'm being invisible in that I didn't answer him. I'm not sure why, I'm going through some kind of "growth period" or something. It's hard to explain..but I don't feel like jumping anymore when he says hello..I made myself way too available to him over the years and then when he disappears I feel bad. I'm sort of too busy to even think about it..I'll probably contact him next week or wait for him to initiate contact again.

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Registered: 09-29-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 9:57pm
Well guess what Scu72 my AP finally appeared. He called me, but I missed the call. I am glad though. He text me right after, claiming that he just got my text, he wanted to talk. My text? Oh the one I sent him on Jan 6? he barely got it on Jan 15? --You think?
Well, I did NOT feel inclined to reply him. I will not reply him in fact. I thought that I would melt at his first sign of life but no!! I will definitely will not answer him and wait until he contacts me again.
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Registered: 04-17-2006
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 11:15pm

Good for you girl..don't you feel a bit empowered now? YOu need to do this for yourself, to prove that you aren't so codependent on AP and to show him that you arne't going to jump every time he says hello. My AP contacted me Jan 5 via IM, but I did not contact him until yesterday....he gave me some story about nto being in his offices, he is working off site, has no desk and no privacy. Blah blah blah, whatever, he could still text but I wasn't going to tell him that. He said he'd contact me when he was back in his offices...I told him he could try, i'm pretty busy through march..LOL..and I wasn't lying either. The old me used to get anxiety if I didn't hear from him, but i'm not going to jump anymore. I can't be the one making all the effort...it is exhausting me and I simply don't have the energy anymore. I'd be lying if I said that I didn't miss him, but I kind of miss the old confident me more.....

Empower yourself girl. Do it for you.

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