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Guilt
| Sun, 11-16-2008 - 11:56pm |
Hello. About a year ago I had an affair with someone I knew. Im single on my end but, this person his married on his. Mind you, I know his wife. I was at a low point in my life but, this should be no excuse for what I have done. I ended the affair in the beginning of the year and finally met an amazing man in which I have a wonderful relationship with. I am absolutely the happiest women alive. But, I have tremendous guilt everyday for my past. I would never tell this new person my secret. I think what happen in the past should stay in the past. I don't know how to get over this guilt. I ask the other person if he feels the same way considering that we both done wrong and told him how guilty I feel everyday. This person told me that he doesn't feel guilty at all. Maybe when things happend in the beginning but, not anymore. What happend, happend and move on. He did. Why can't I? No one knows about us and I use to hang out with there same group of friends. I couldn't bring myself to come around again just so I don't face the both of them. I feel ashamed and unmoral. I also fear that someday I will get caught. Not only would that ruin my relationship now, but, will hurt A LOT of people. I should have thought about that before but, I can't take back the past. If I could, I would! Ick.
Does anyone feel guilty for their affairs? Does it

Forgive yourself. No one is perfect. You are not perfect either, nor that you expected to be. Screwing up is a part of a human nature. You are human being, so you're expected to make mistakes and goof up at times.
Guilt serves nothing. Your A is in a past, and leave it in the past. Accept it as a life lesson, and move on.
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Dont let it consume you!
I will never forget the moment that the gravity of what I was doing hit me. Someone had post a link to the Oprah show about betrayed spouses, and they had the wives that had been hurt on there. Unfortunately I was at work when I watched it. I wept for a good half an hour after watching it. I mean I was sobbing. My Ap has left his wife twice for me (long story) we have had a child together which she treats as her own, and still I continued to steal her H away. I couldn't believe that I was doing what I was doing.
Thanks to my trusted friends here on MAS I was able to see that their marriage was over long before I came along, and that her H wasn't being held captive. He is w/ me because HE wants to be.
As for you, and your guilt. Honey there are a lot of things that you could do that would be way worse than sleeping w/ a MM. You did it, it's over. Now you have to press on. Let that go, and enjoy the man that is ALL yours.