The Guilt...

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Registered: 06-22-2007
The Guilt...
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Sun, 09-14-2008 - 7:34pm

My saga continues...


They told the children today that he is leaving. I am so overcome with guilt that I don't know how to process it. I know intellectually it's not my fault, but emotionally is a different matter. We talked a lot about this -- that he had to do it for himself, that I couldn't promise that I would leave my M, etc. Still, I feel that if I had broken up with him that I he would have gone back. I actually tried many times to end it -- including last night -- but I couldn't make it stick because I don't want to leave him. I want him in my life. God help me, but I love him. I wish I could hit a rewind button.

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Registered: 08-09-2008
In reply to: idkwiwt
Sun, 09-14-2008 - 8:36pm

I am sorry that you are feeling bummed. ((((hugs)))) Being in an A is not easy, as I am already learning. Unfortunately many times there are more people involved than just the APs. It isn't easy on anyone. I am hoping that the next few days give you both time to sort out your feelings and that it will smooth out. Most transitions take time. Take the time you need and the time that he needs.


((((hugs)))) Wish I had more advise. I am new in this area.